Woman fumes as 41-year-old bloke she's dating gushes over celebs in their 20s
Navigating the world of dating is never easy, especially when you start to learn which of your pet hates your partner has, or the thing you do that really annoys them.
One woman has said she's discovered one irritating thing about the man she's been dating for just over a month - as he won't stop talking about other women that he finds attractive.
The woman, 41, said she's been on a total of four dates with the bloke, also 41, and while things are going well, he has a habit of "gushing" about celebrities that he has crushes on, all of whom happen to be around 15 years younger than them.
His comments make her feel insecure about her looks (stock photo) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)Although the woman understands she's not in a serious relationship with the man at this stage, she said she can't help but feel "a bit s**t" that he keeps bringing up other women he is attracted to, as it makes her feel insecure about her looks.
In a post on Mumsnet, she said: "I've been seeing a guy for a very short while, started messaging before Christmas and met up shortly after. We've had 4 dates. During this time, I've heard all about the celebrity women he fancies. Quite a lot. Not really relevant to bring up really I don't think, but I'm happy to be told I'm being silly.
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"In one instance, we were messaging about our evening and he said he was watching a film with a particular actress in it and said 'oh s**t, it looks like I've got a thing for X again!', which I thought was odd. Another he's spoken about several times.
"Last night was a pretty big gush about this woman. So I said 'yes, I get that you like her, you've told me before'. He then went on (as if trying to persuade me to agree almost) to talk about how much of an amazing actress she is, how he really respects her work/music and generally how amazing she is.
"We sort of had words about it because while I completely understand everyone finds other people attractive, it's not really something I'd like to hear this often after such a short time! It made me feel a bit s**t.
"He does compliment me, but this talking about female celebs has just got to me. I don't have the best opinion of myself physically and he knows this."
The woman then asked her fellow Mumsnet users if they thought she was "being an idiot", but was surprised to find that many people said they wouldn't like to hear their date talk about other women so often either.
One person wrote: "No it's not okay, I wouldn't date someone who did this either."
While another said: "What's wrong with him? Sounds incredibly immature and frankly dull. Does he have nothing else to talk about? Would give me the ick."
In another comment, the woman responded: "Oh cr*p. I think I was hoping I was being silly!"
She also explained in further posts that the actresses her date talks about are all around "15 years younger" than they are, putting them in their 20s, which only makes the woman feel more uncomfortable.
Other commenters also pointed out that her date might be trying to "make her jealous", or seeing how far he can push things in order to get a reaction out of her.
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Someone noted: "Sounds to me like he's trying to make you jealous or see what reaction it gets. He's pathetic, I would call it quits now before you start feeling repulsed by him."
As another posted: "He's either incredibly immature or trying to make you jealous. I wouldn't stick around."
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