Mum rages as husband jets off on stag weekend - just weeks after she gave birth

26 February 2023 , 13:14

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The mum feels as though she's 'drowning' in parenting duties (stock photo) (Image: Getty Images/Tetra images RF)

Many of us will know how exhausting being a new parent can be, and if you have the help of your partner or another family member to take some of the weight off of your shoulders, it can make all the difference.

But one woman has been left fuming at her husband after he told her he's set to jet off on holiday for his mate's stag weekend just six weeks after welcoming their second child together - meaning she'll be left to take care of the baby and their two-year-old child by herself.

The woman said she gave birth via emergency C-section and her daughter ended up in the NICU for two weeks, so the parents have already endured a lot of stress since the little one's birth.

The dad is heading off on a stag weekend (stock photo) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)

And while the mum feels as though she's "drowning" both mentally and physically with her parenting responsibilities, her husband has decided to go on holiday with his mates instead of staying at home to support her.

In a post on Reddit, she wrote: "I just had an emergency c-section six weeks ago with our daughter who ended up in the NICU for two weeks. She almost died, but other than the mental effect the whole experience had on me, that part is irrelevant.

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"My husband told me he is going for a weekend bachelor party trip a nine-hour drive away within the next weeks. We have a two-year-old in addition to our newborn and I already do 90% of the caretaking since I am on maternity leave (unpaid). He currently works nights so the only time he spends with our children is about two hours in the evening and then he typically goes back to sleep until his shift begins, so he also spends no time with me.

"I literally never get to leave the house, I barely even get the opportunity to take a bath every day. How is it fair or considerate of him to be able to take this trip?

"If the kids were a little older and he already spent more time with us, I wouldn't care. But I'm drowning both mentally and physically as it is. AITA [am I the a**hole] for not wanting him to go? And thinking that it's inappropriate to be leaving me alone with a newborn and toddler to go party?"

Commenters on the post were firmly on the woman's side, with many saying her husband was being inconsiderate.

One person said: "You want support from your husband and that's completely normal. It's crazy to me that it even crossed his mind to go at such a time."

While another added: "You need help, and him leaving is so selfish. You need someone to help take care of the kids, but also take care of you. He needs to get his priorities in order."

And a third wrote: "He's being a cruel, selfish, and irresponsible man and father."

Zahna Eklund