Mum gobsmacked as pal blocks her on her birthday over 'absurd' text message
When it comes to birthdays, it's always nice to receive well wishes from your friends, which is why one woman made a point of setting reminders in her calendar.
However, she recently found herself in a spot of hot water with one friend after sending a birthday text message.
The unnamed mum took to the internet to share the awkward situation, which resulted in her being blocked by her pal.
She explained that she'd been friends with the other woman for several years but doesn't see her very often as they live quite far apart.
The other woman had recently forgotten her birthday, but she still felt strongly that she should send her a message to acknowledge hers.
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People branded her message 'absurd' and 'harsh' (stock photo) (Getty Images)Writing on BabyCentre's Am I Being Unreasonable forum, she explained: "I have always felt it was important to remember someone's birthday if they're your friend. Not every friend but your core group of friends I think it's important.
"I have a calendar with my close friends' birthdays in and I just send a quick text on their birthday so they know I remembered. I sent a text to a close friend of mine saying happy birthday. We've been friends several years. Can't meet up in person often as we live so far away. She did not remember my birthday which was hurtful but I would never say anything. She's pregnant and been unwell with the pregnancy. She hasn't many close friends and is quite shy.
"She replied saying 'Thank you so much for remembering my birthday. You were the only person who remembered so I appreciate it'.
"I replied saying 'Do you remember mine?' She replied saying 'Of course'. I replied saying 'Okay when is it then?' A few minutes later I was blocked! This was a month ago and she hasn't contacted me since or unblocked me.
"I contacted her from my partner's number saying 'Hi just checking in to see how you are' and she's not replied and blocked him.
"Am I being unreasonable to think this is an absurd over-reaction? Yes, I was hurt that she didn't remember my birthday and challenged her when she was clearly pretending she had. Maybe that wasn’t helpful on her birthday but she could have just said 'No sorry I don't remember as had a lot on or something'. It's such a small thing to block someone over."
However, many people disagreed with her and took the birthday girl's side.
One person commented: "Ok … so you called out your friend, who is shy and has been having a difficult time, for not remembering your birthday. And you're wondering why that didn’t go down well? You actively invited a confrontation from someone you know doesn't like confrontation, what did you expect?"
Another said: "It's pretty awful to call out a friend for not remembering yours on her own birthday. Life happens, she's shy and having a rubbish pregnancy and you decided to grind your axe on her birthday. I'd have likely blocked you too."
While a third posted: "What a petty move on your part. You could have had that conversation any time but you chose her birthday? How vindictive. I'd block you as well."
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However, not everyone thought she was unreasonable with one person saying as much, someone else just thought the woman's text was "a bit harsh".
A different user added: "Oh dear, I don't think that was a good decision. It invalidated your birthday wishes to her and then made it about you. I'm Not saying blocking you is right; I think that's very immature actually, but I think you made a poor judgment on choosing that moment. Don't sweat the small stuff, forgetting a birthday is small stuff, some people are just not that way. If you care to continue the friendship, I would apologise and say it's clear you hurt her and you're very sorry. You made a mistake and hope you can get back to being friends."
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