Woman causes stir online after boycotting cousin's child-free wedding day
A woman has caused uproar online after hosting a family BBQ on the same day as her cousin's wedding after he sent out child-free requests to their family 'filled with kids' just a month before the big day. The woman says it left many of her family members unable to go to the ceremony as they couldn't find childcare for their underage children.
Last year when the cousin of the groom received the invite to the wedding she said she was initially impressed with the sound of the big day which would be taking place at a venue on a small lake the following August. And after being invited she spent time organising days off work and took her nine-year-old niece, who she looks after, out to buy a formal dress.
Just a month before the wedding the registered nurse learnt that the event was in fact child-free, leaving her and the rest of her big family struggling to find childcare, including the groom's 17-year-old brother who was also banned from the event. Sharing her experience in a post on Reddit the woman said when she explained her family's dilemma to her cousin's soon-to-be bride she was told 'she didn't have to come'.
She said: "The decision was final. I tried to persuade her again but she just hung up. Soon the week of the wedding arrived, me and my niece were chilling when she asked me if I was going to the wedding. I said no. She said 'Oh, man, I wanted BBQ."
As she could no longer go to the wedding, after being unable to find childcare, the woman says she decided to throw a BBQ at her place on the day of the ceremony. And decided to invite other family members with children around as, like her, had previously arranged time off work.
'I don't want children staying up late at weekends - I really need adult time'
As she explained: "I called a few family members, I didn't imply anything, just asked if they were going, and if they yes I left them be. If they said no, I invited them. On the day of the wedding, my backyard was crowded. Uncle brought the grill, cousin got the ribs, and auntie brought deviled eggs. It was the bomb. I feel that I wasn't in the wrong at all, but as weeks passed my mum kept asking me to apologize to my cousin-in-law."
And her decision certainly caused a stir online as many readers seemed to think she created more drama by hosting the get-together. One person said: "There was already tension about the no kids thing. By having a party, you amped up the drama and gave people an opportunity to choose sides and be petty." Another person seemed to agree by saying it was a 'dramatic' response to the no-child rule, as they said: "You hosted a large party on the day of the wedding on purpose. To spite them. And to make sure everyone knew it."
Other readers were quick to say that a child-free wedding is a 'valid choice' but you had to own that decision, as one person said: "If people choose not to attend you have to live with that."
Read more similar news:
Comments:
comments powered by Disqus
