Mum sobs at heartbreaking RSVP after sending son's 12th birthday party invites

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Her son is having a 12th birthday party (stock image) (Image: Getty Images)
Her son is having a 12th birthday party (stock image) (Image: Getty Images)

When it comes to birthday parties, some schools have a policy that you need to invite everyone from your class, so no one feels excluded. And one woman has found out why this policy is so important for certain people.

She was left heartbroken after reading an RSVP from her son's upcoming 12th birthday party. He goes to a "special" school for people with educational needs or a disability, so everyone needs to be invited in the class.

In a recent post on parenting forum Mumsnet, the anonymous woman explained that it was the first party invitation she is aware of from his school year. She knows they are all excited, and she was very pleased that many had RSVPd.

While her son is incredibly excited for the party itself, it's the responses from his classmates that have truly touched the mum. In the post, she explained: "So many of these kids are charmingly, innocently, enormously excited. Reading the invitation daily in anticipation I'm told.

"Some I hear are very nervous to attend a social thing but utterly determined to see it through. I suspect these reactions are because party invitations are incredibly rare for these kids and I've been pushing the thought away as it makes me weepy."

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It was one RSVP that in particularly made her feel absolutely heartbroken, from a boy whose mum explained it was the first party invite he had ever received. She explained: "Then today I got a very explicit RSVP- the boy's mum said he will definitely attend and wants to bring a big present as it's his first ever party invitation- at the age of 12. I've been sobbing every time I read it.

"[Am I being unreasonable] to be heartbroken that a child can get to secondary school without receiving a single invitation ever? How is that possible? I know the answer of course - it's discrimination, ignorance, fear. A taste of the exclusion they can expect their whole lives.

"It's a crying shame. I wish I knew what to do to help other than keep encouraging my [son] to be friendly. I hope, I hope, my party planning is up to the task and they have the time of their lives."

The post was flooded with support and empathy from other parents. One person wrote: "Oh, that's heartbreaking. Sounds like the kids will be delighted with games, food, and just being together out of school! I'd be laying on a special spread for the parents and giving them a lovely time as well."

Another said: "It's so sad that these kids haven't been to as many parties as their neurotypical counterparts but take comfort in that they now have each other and will probably be far more loyal and less a**holey to each other than typical teens in the coming years. I bet you'll love getting to know all these young characters and hopefully going forward there will be lots more parties for them. Hope your boy has the most amazing day!"

Ariane Sohrabi-Shiraz

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