Woman's boyfriend disgusted by 'gross' toilet habit - but people are backing her
A woman has shared her upset after revealing that her partner is 'disgusted' by her bathroom behaviour - but people are very much on her side.
The majority of us prefer to be discreet when it comes to toilet habits. And one girlfriend has said she felt shamed by her boyfriend's reaction when he recently discovered her method.
The couple have been together for two years and decided to move in together. She is a second generation immigrant, who was born in the US to Indian parents. As such, she grew up with a bidet in the bathroom.
Since moving into the new place with her partner, the woman explained she has been using a portable, handheld bidet which she bought from Amazon, not least because of the cost of installing a bidet into the new bathroom.
Then one day, her boyfriend stumbled across it while looking for something in her drawers. "He came to me and asked me what it was - I told him as much," she explained on Reddit. "At first he was taken aback and I thought he's just curious so I didn't think much of it until I answered how I use it.
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"Skip this part if you don't want to get grossed out. Generally, after I wipe my bum with TP [toilet paper] properly, I wash down the area using my hands (one hand I hold my bidet and squeeze it repeatedly to squirt the water, other I use to rub my butt) and wipe my area dry again with TP. Then I make sure to thoroughly wash my hands with soap twice. I don't see it any different from washing your butt in the shower after you poop."
She continued: "He was immediately disgusted and made me feel gross about using my hands down there. I was so confused and hurt - like is it any different from washing your ass in the shower? Have I ever shamed him for using TP exclusively? No…
"Now he's just making me feel like he's done something abominable by holding my hands and kissing it. Dude, I washed them every single time. My hands might be cleaner than yours since you probably don't even wash your own hands after holding your wiener after taking a p*ss.
"I really wanna just scream at him for how ridiculous and childish and immature he's acting. Is this something salvageable? I cannot fathom going to a couple's therapist to discuss his hang ups about how I clean my poop! I'm just so annoyed. Rant over."
People were quick to comment on the post - and they were largely on the woman's side. One person responded: "I asked for and got a bidet toilet seat for Christmas. No plumbing required other than attaching it to the toilet tank. It shoots a good jet for both front and back, no scrubbing required, just a bit of drying off. You do you and you've been together for a while and you haven't poisoned him yet, so I'm guessing your hygiene is fine."
A second said: "I know they are more hygienic, but I dislike bidets. With the covid epidemic I bought Toto attachment, used it a few times and decided no. IMO, there's nothing gross about what OP is doing. It's like taking a shower. I use soap and my hand during the shower. OP has already wiped with TP."
A third added: "American here, in the south. I don't think what you're doing it gross at all. Maybe a little jarring at first, but once I thought about it critically, it's pretty obvious you're likely cleaner than a lot of folks. I'm sorry so many people are being so hurtful with their comments. Not all of us are suffering from a culture superiority complex. I bought a bidet during Covid and I love it 1,000,000%."
And a fourth concluded: "Plenty of cultures do it this way including my own. Not weird. Makes me question how well your bf washes his hands if this grosses him out!"
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