'My friend makes me order all her online deliveries - I feel like her secretary'

26 October 2023 , 18:50

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The woman was fed up of buying things for her friend (Stock Image) (Image: Getty Images)

If your best friend needs a favour from you, the likelihood is that you'll want to help them out as much as you can. Many people will bend over backwards for their besties, but one woman was left fed up with feeling like her friend's "secretary" as she kept asking her if she could do the same thing over and over again.

The woman said that one of her closest friends kept asking her to "order things for her online", and was refusing to do it herself because she "doesn't want to put her card details" onto websites on the internet. But the friend was left feeling used, and took to Mumsnet to share that it was becoming too much hassle for her - especially because she wasn't getting much back from the friendship.

She wrote: "A long-standing friend keeps asking me to order things for her online. She refuses to even try to do it because she doesn't want to put her card details. She won't even sign up for an e-wallet or prepaid card. It's ok once or twice but now it's everything. Birthdays, Christmas, anything.

"She gives me the money but I feel like a secretary. Sometimes if we haven't spoken for a couple of weeks, I'll get a message, no hello how are you, just can you order me this today in a large? I've told her she needs to do it and she just mouths the words I know, but doesn't. I just feel like if I didn't do it would we even be friends? How can I say no? I've made various excuses but I always ended up doing it. Really fed up. She has family that could do it."

In the comments, people were quick to tell the woman to "Just say no." "Don't make excuses. Just say no, you don't want to do it anymore. You'll soon see if she's still a 'friend'", someone suggested.

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"Just say you are finding it a pain sorry so won’t be doing it anymore (that's the truth.)", one Mumsnetter reassured. Another said: "Just say no. Tell her you are going for a loan and need to produce bank statements and you need your limit your transactions so it does not look like you are overspending if you cannot say a straight no."

Someone fumed: "Omg my sister-in-law used to do this to me all the time. She didn’t want to put her card details in because she would get scammed. But it was OK for me to do it? I went for the nuclear option and stopped speaking to her over a load of other things. Maybe try that", followed by a crying with laughter face.

Danielle Kate Wroe