'My mum missed my wedding - I'm fuming but she says I'm the one being selfish'
A bride was left devastated when her family were no-shows at her recent wedding.
The heartbroken woman was supported by her dad's side and her friends on her big day - but her mother and her family simply didn't turn up - and it's caused a major rift. The 23-year-old bride's parents split up when she was young and her mum went on to have another child, a son who is eight years younger.
The mother waited a whole day before contacting her daughter to explain their absence - and it all revolved around the 15-year-old son from another marriage, Jack. He had apparently got into an accident a couple of nights before (he was with an older friend of his who crashed the car), which had left him spooked - but physically fine.
However, as a result, he refused to get into a car to attend his half-sister's wedding. Taking to Reddit, the bride explained: "Mum said she was going to come by herself or with my step siblings but then there was an issue with the car which was caused by Jack freaking out when they were first getting ready to leave. She then said she was going to call an Uber to get to the wedding but Jack had passed out from the stress so she couldn't leave because she was terrified something happened to him.
"I understand but if I'm being honest, I don't know if I believe my mum 100%. She sounded pretty apologetic but I'm still upset that no one let me know. Apart from my mum, Jack, and my step dad who might've been way too preoccupied, my step siblings are all over 16 years old with phones of their own. Couldn't they have told me?"
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The bride further revealed that he mother had then suggested they meet up - something she refused because she was upset. "My mum was annoyed by this and told me the world doesn't revolve around me and I have no right to be upset over her not being there now that I know why," she revealed.
"I told her that I don't care, I don't want to see her. In fact I'm very angry at her. She told me that I'm being selfish and that she won't be contacting me anymore until I apologise because she cannot handle my childish tantrums on top of everything else."
Reaching out for advice, she asked: "I don't know. I think I should've just said okay and met up with her but I’m hurt. She still hasn’t talked to me though and she usually doesn’t go through with her threats. Am I being the a**hole?"
The Reddit community were unanimous. "I'm so angry on OP's [original poster's] behalf - the nerve of her mom to tell OP she was being childish and had no right to be upset that she didn't attend her WEDDING," one wrote. "I really hope OP has a happy life with her husband." A second observed: "Sounds like the world revolves around Jack, doesn't it?
"At this point, frankly, why would you want to meet up with your mother? You know what she's going to say, she'll just be defensive and tell you you have no right to your feelings. And what would you say to her? Would it improve your relationship? She can't make up for missing your wedding, that ship has sailed. Do you think she'll be there for you if you get pregnant or when you give birth or when she's supposed to babysit? Doesn't sound like it. Jack would REALLY be jealous of a baby too. If I were you I wouldn't contact her, at least for now. Unless there's something specific you want to say. But she's not going to change. I'm sorry."
And a third wrote: "Yeah... hate to say it but OP doesn't seem high on mom's priority list. OP has every right to be hurt. It's bonkers to tell your kid "the world doesn't revolve around you" after missing their WEDDING. It's not like a birthday where those come every year and still hurts. I think if OP has just been turning a blind eye all this time, now is the time to stand your ground. Don't be the one to apologise, which is nuts that I even have to say."
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