'Demanding in-laws won't stop asking for our baby name - so I gave worst one'
It isn't always easy to bite our tongues when it comes to the actions and opinions of our in-laws.
One woman has drawn the line after confessing her mother-in-law and father-in-law continued to pester her following the devastating news she had lost a baby. While loved ones can comfort those who have lost a child, no one understands how traumatic and devastating it can be more than the parents.
Although miscarriage is common, losing a baby is still largely a taboo topic across the world, leaving many men and women feeling alone in their pain. According to research by leading baby loss charity Tommy's, approximately one in 100 women in the UK experience recurrent miscarriages (three or more in a row).
One woman who has sadly been through this, and wishes to remain unnamed, said she has been inundated with questions and constant conversation about her and her partner's loss. She is fed up of her "overbearing" in-laws. "It's been really inappropriate and upsetting," she said.
The grieving mum took to Reddit and explained that the miscarriage happened before she and her partner were able to tell their friends and family that they were expecting a child. But, after their devastation they told their loved ones in hopes of their support.
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She said: "Everyone was devastated, but my in-laws could not let it go. They constantly talk about the baby I lost - asking me if I thought it was a boy or girl, what we would've named it, etc.
"It has got to the point where they are demanding we name the baby we lost, so they can refer to it by a name. My mother-in-law said she wanted to make a Christmas stocking for the baby. I was at my wit's end and the stocking thing set me off."
The annoyed woman decided to get her own back and teach her partner's parents a lesson. She continued: "I told them we decided on the name Kegel - like the pelvic exercise.
"They were shocked but didn’t say anything against the name. Honestly the shocked reactions were hilarious. I can’t wait to have a stocking hung on the fireplace every year that says 'Kegel' on it."
While devastated for the Reddit user's loss, she was inundated with comments from people who thought her idea was genius. One individual said: "The name is a hilarious idea, but these people are cruel and don't deserve to be close enough to say these things to you. Wishing you the best of health and the absence of their expelling sounds in your general direction."
Another wrote: "I'm so sorry for your loss—this is heartbreaking and hard enough to go through without this sort of pressure from the in-laws. On a lighter note, that is hilarious."
A third said: "Personally, I think husband needs to talk to them about boundaries. She shouldn’t have to defend herself from her mother-in-law if she insists." Another offering support commented: "I’ve heard a lot of in-law horror stories, but this has got to be one of the worst. So incredibly insensitive. I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with this."
You can find help and support on baby loss with the charity, Tommy's. The organisation does vital research into miscarriage, stillbirth and premature birth, as well as helping parents.
Do you have a baby loss story you would like to share? Get in touch. Email [email protected].
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