'My girlfriend's friend devised a test to see if I'm a cheater - she's pathetic'

11 February 2024 , 07:00

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She doesn't think it's a big deal but he's furious (stock image) (Image: Getty Images/EyeEm)

A man has opened up about the fury he feels after one of his girlfriend’s best pals decided to ‘test’ him to see if he would cheat or not, with the result being something he could have never imagined.

The 30-year-old shared that he has been dating his girlfriend Olivia*, 23, for a year after meeting in a coffee shop and hitting it off. He wrote: “Things have been great so far, and I feel we are compatible in terms of what we like and want from a relationship.” He revealed that the couple were doing so well that he decided to ask his girlfriend to move in with him and was delighted when she agreed.

One evening, before Olivia moved in, she had decided to stay at her parent's home so she could pack up the rest of her things and spend some time with them. He wrote: “Olivia’s friend Harper messaged us to say that she and her friends were downtown, and if we wanted to hang out with her.” He added that although Olivia was busy she told him to go out and meet her friends and have fun.

He went on: “I had nothing to do, so I joined them. It was all three of her friends and me and we went to a few bars. We lost the other two girls midway, and it was just Harper and I. I was constantly messaging Olivia about what was going on, as I started to get uncomfortable with the situation.

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“It was getting late, I told Harper that I would get an Uber for her to drop her home. She told me that she wanted to go dancing. At this point, she was visibly getting drunk. I called an Uber for her anyway. As we were leaving the bar, Harper grabbed my T-shirt and tried to kiss me.

“I immediately pulled back and told her that this was making me uncomfortable and I would let it pass since she was drunk. She apologized to me. As we were waiting for Uber, she again started getting handsy and told me ‘Let's go back to your place’, and ‘No one needs to know’.

“I snapped at her at this point and told her to please shut up until she got in the car. Finally, the Uber came and I got Harper to get in. She kept on apologizing to me and telling me, ‘Please don't tell Olivia’."

The man admitted the situation had left him feeling very uncomfortable and he immediately called his girlfriend to tell her what had happened. He went on: “Olivia was crying and I was genuinely p***ed at Harper's behavior. Olivia tried to call Harper at night, but her phone was going straight to her voicemail.”

The following morning, the man revealed that Olivia came over and explained she had spoken to Harper and everything was fine. According to her friend, it had been a “test” to see if he would cheat and was good enough for Olivia before she moved in. He continued: “I asked Olivia to explain what was going on. Harper messaged Olivia in the morning that Olivia was really lucky and that I passed the test.

“I asked Olivia if she was involved in this, and she did not know that Harper was going to ‘test’ me. According to Harper, she wanted to make sure that I was not a cheater before Olivia moved in with me. Hence, she wanted to see if I accept her advances. I told Olivia that Harper is full of s**t because she was drunk and there was no way she was thinking straight. Moreover, when I snapped at her, she apologized and told me not to tell you anything. Harper is just trying to cover for her mistake and is giving a bulls**t excuse.

Furious, the man admitted that he and Olivia had argued over the situation with him adamant that Harper isn't a good friend and her story about the 'test' is to cover up her behaviour. He added: "Olivia thinks I am overreacting. According to her, Harper is her best friend and will never betray her. She says it was stupid and Harper should apologize to me, she was just looking for Olivia's best interest."

He finished: "I just feel Olivia is dumb and cannot see that her friend tried to get her boyfriend to cheat. I just feel she is too immature to understand Harper's true intentions and it is bothering me. I told her to stay away from Harper if she wanted us to have a happy relationship. Am I just overreacting? I have never heard of anyone hitting on their friend's boyfriend to 'test' the relationship and seems like the most bulls**t excuse."

People reading the Reddit post were stunned by Olivia's behaviour and rushed to urge the man to end his relationship with her. One person replied: "I would be physically incapable of being with someone that naive and I say that as someone who is himself at times naive." And someone else added: "Dude I'm more dense than a gold bar and even I think that chick is being gullible." While a third user stated: "Olivia will not drop Harper, no matter what. You will not be able to badmouth Harper ever without p***ing off Olivia, and Olivia is going to believe Harper over you, which she’s pretty much proven already. The number of red flags here is significant. Do not move this girl into your apartment."

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