'My friend married a sex offender - their wedding was a complete disaster'

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The bridesmaid was horrified when she learned about the groom (stock photo) (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)
The bridesmaid was horrified when she learned about the groom (stock photo) (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

A woman has recounted the worst wedding she ever went to, spilling the beans on every disaster that occurred but with the admission of the groom being a sex offender resulting in her leaving halfway through the day. Sharing all on social media, the woman admitted that she should have been wary from the beginning but ignored every red flag.

She wrote: “My former coworker, Kim*, calls me up out of the blue and wants to reconnect. I liked her just fine while we worked together, so I agreed. We met up at Applebee's and she asked me to be one of her bridesmaids.

“That should have been my first red flag. I hadn't spoken to her in almost a year at that point, and the next time I spoke to her was when she asked me to be a bridesmaid. I was caught off guard, but also surprised and flattered, so I ignored my instincts and agreed.”

The now-bridesmaid explained that she “sort of” knew the groom as he had been a customer at the shop she and the bride worked at. She went on: “The only thing I knew about him was that a few years prior he had allegedly, according to K, been tricked into sleeping with a minor, as the minor was in a bar so he assumed she was of legal age and slept with her, but she was actually slightly underage. I never commented on the situation, but it always sounded fishy to me.”

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In the run-up to the wedding, the bridesmaid noted that there were several “cringy” occurrences but she still didn’t pull out of her duties. The first was that the bridal shower was a ‘multi-level marketing’ event, with the maid of honour getting everyone to buy overpriced jewellery for the wedding.

“The second cringey occurrence was that the bride offered to pay for all of our bridesmaid dresses, which I appreciated, but then she bought them on Wish,” said the bridesmaid. “So none of them fit and they looked terrible. We ended up going to TJ Maxx and picking out something else a week before the wedding.

“But the biggest issues came on the day of the wedding. I arrived at the venue (a public park) three hours before the ceremony, as instructed. Everyone is setting things up in the little shelter house, including a line of slow cookers that her aunts brought to cook the 40 lbs of pulled pork that her uncle gifted her for her wedding. That was apparently the wedding meal — 40 pounds of pulled pork from her uncle.

“There weren't enough folding chairs for the guests because they didn't rent any chairs and they didn't even think about seating - in a public park, where there is no seating available - when planning the wedding, so we had to call her relatives to ask them to bring their own chairs.”

She also discovered that the bride and groom hadn’t hired a photographer, so her brother took everything on his phone. She added: “You'd think this would mean pictures would go by fast, but nope - it still took three hours.”

According to the bridesmaid, the best man didn’t even know he had the job until they were all in position as the groom had got into a fight with his previous best man the week before and been uninvited from the wedding. In addition to this, one of the relatives decided to give a speech about honouring those who couldn’t be with them and then played

"See You Again" by Whiz Khalifa and Charlie Pouth on someone’s phone. She quipped: “It was made significantly less touching when it started loudly playing a Spotify ad immediately after the song ended.”

By the time the bridal party had finished taking all the photos, the 40lbs of pulled pork had been eaten by the other guests, so there was nothing left to eat. She added: “I hadn't eaten all day and I was starving and cranky.”

However, it turned out that the bride didn’t mind too much as it meant that they would have to leave. The bridesmaid went on: “I asked if she hadn't made a reservation for the park space, and she said no, they hadn't, because her new husband wasn't supposed to be at the park.

“I asked why. She explained that the story she told me before, about her husband sleeping with a woman who he assumed was of age in a bar? Apparently that was a lie. He slept with the babysitter of his two young sons, knowing she was thirteen, and her parents pressed charges when they found out, as they should. So he wasn't supposed to be at the public park, or any public park, because he was on the sex offender registry. I walked out.

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“I had felt bad for her for her obvious lack of wedding budget throughout the whole process, up until the end. Weddings are expensive and she was the single mom of a five-year-old boy, so she had to stretch to make ends meet as it was. I didn't begrudge that at all and I was more than willing to work with that. I could have taken all of it in stride. I didn't make a single complaint throughout the entire process. But when the sex offender reveal happened, I was done. I took my bottle of wine, went through the drive-thru of my favorite burger place, and went home.”

People reading the Reddit post were left in stunned amazement by the story. One person wrote: “This is wild and gross but the Spotify ad playing at the end of the heartfelt tribute made me actually laugh out loud.”

If you have been affected by this story, contact Rape Crisis England & Wales for free confidential support and information on 08088029999 or their website or 08088010302 if you're calling from Scotland. You can contact the Domestic and Sexual Abuse helpline on 0808 802 1414 if you are in Ireland.

If you are a survivor of sexual assault, you can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline (1-800-656-4673) or visit to receive confidential support.

Eve Wagstaff

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