Woman's 15 year friendship in tatters after 'misreading' text message
We all know that how text messages are written and how they’re read can be two very different things. If you happen to catch someone when they’re busy and end up getting a vague reply, it can cause you to think they’re cross or upset with you - it can even lead to arguments.
And sometimes what’s been written can get muddled, which is the situation one woman has found herself in - unfortunately leading to the end of a 15-year friendship with a long-time pal. Taking to a parenting forum to ask what she should do, the woman revealed that it had all started when her former friend texted her asking for help with an outfit for a big event.
She explained: “[This] friend is quite a glass-half-empty sort of person and has incredibly low self-esteem so I've always been there for her to help/lift her spirits and just be an all-around good friend to her.”
The woman revealed she had lent her friend a very expensive pair of shoes, driven over to help with her hair and make-up before the big night and generally gone out of her way to make sure she felt great.
Fast forward a couple of months and the woman texted her pal to ask for her shoes back as she had a wedding she wanted to wear them to. She went on: “Long story short she sent me an essay about how tough life is for her, and how ashamed she is, that she has sold my pair of shoes. These are Christian Louboutin shoes that were given to me as a wedding present a couple of years back.
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“I told her that I was really angry at this, they weren't her shoes to sell. The friend went on to say she was under the impression that I gave her the shoes, and they were her shoes to sell.”
Fuming, the woman went back through her texts to check the wording, adding: [The text] reads as follows: 'I have a pair of X you can wear, I won't need them for the time being so you can wear these if they fit you, you will look fabulous.' From my understanding, there was nothing about her being able to keep the shoes.”
Annoyed and upset, she did a little digging and found out her ex-friend had pawned them. Luckily, the shop that had bought them still had them and was happy to hold until the matter got resolved and someone bought them back.
The woman went on: “I told friend this, and told her she must buy the shoes back immediately. She's agreed to buy them back, but has said that she will go without food, not be able to pay her mortgage for the month, and basically made me sound like a cheeky f***er for asking her to do this.
“She's basically turning this whole thing back around on me, telling me that I could easily buy another pair of shoes. I can't. I don't have that disposable money as everyone knows how expensive life is at the moment! Am I being unreasonable? I'm lucky I found the store she pawned them to and I'm lucky they haven't been sold on, she sold them recently and I gave them to her only a few months back so it's not as if they've been laying collecting dust under her bed!”
The woman finished by explaining that her former friend’s children are in their late teens/early twenties, so should really have their own money for food. However, what’s she most annoyed about is how guilty the other woman is trying to make her feel.
She finished: “The shoes have sentimental value, they were given to me by someone very special which is why I would rather have those specific shoes back rather than give me the money for them. I guess it is my fault really for letting her borrow them. Needless to say, the friendship of 15 years is over.”
After reading the comments many users were divided over what the woman should do, with many suggesting she should buy the shoes back herself and never speak to her former friend again. Other people thought she should hold out and make the other person buy them back.
One reader wrote: “Get the shoes back. End this ridiculous friendship. Some people are lifelong parasites and she is one of them. Be comfortable in your own presence. Enjoy your time in the world.”
And someone else suggested: “I don’t think you should have to do this but - would you trust her to pay you back the money if you bought them back yourself? On a monthly basis or something? Your message makes it clear you were just lending them. She's a cheeky f***er for sure. Has she really fallen on such hard times that maybe she wasn’t thinking straight?”
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