Bridesmaid horrified at bride's 'absurd' hair dye request for her wedding day
Being a bridesmaid can not only be expensive, but it can lead to you having to make compromises so the bride can have a special day. You might have to wear - and spend money on - a dress you think looks awful, and spend money on an extortionate hen do. But chances are, if you want your friends to have the best wedding, these are sacrifices you're willingly make.
One bridesmaid, however, felt that the bride had gone a step too far in her demands ahead of her special day. The 25-year-old took to Reddit to share her dilemma, as her friend is getting married next year. "A couple of days ago, she met with me and the rest of the bridal party to discuss the plan for hair, makeup and dresses. At first it seemed reasonable."
The bride-to-be had planned for a winter wonderland type theme with blue dresses in different shades and silvery accents, snowflake jewellery, and soft makeup. "Even blue contacts for those of us without blue eyes. The last one's a bit weird, but not a big deal to me, as I've work colour contacts for Halloween," the bridesmaid explained.
"What ended up being an issue for me is [she] requested we all get our hair dyed. A couple of the bridal group are natural blondes with dyed ends, and so is [the bride], who wants to go platinum for the wedding. But the rest of us are two brunettes, a strawberry blonde who wasn't 'blonde enough', and a redhead." The woman is one of the brunettes, and the only one in the group who has never dyed or bleached their hair.
"I've considered it, but I can never stay settled on what I want to do, and I'd hate to spend money on something that I end up hating. On top of that, my mom spent from ages 5-13 flat ironing my hair almost every single day. It really damaged my hair. I'm almost certain it's resulted in my hair being thinner than it used to be. I know bleaching can also damage your hair, and I don't feel comfortable taking that risk yet."
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Uncomfortable with the prospect of dyeing her hair, the bridesmaid explained to the bride she wouldn't be able to do it. The woman insisted it would be fine as her "hair seemed quite healthy", offering to pay for everyone's bleaching treatments. "I again said no, thanks so much but I can't. I asked if I could just wear a wig and she said no, that wigs are cheap and unnatural and she wants us to have our real hair bleached instead of some cheap imitation for the day."
The bride explained that she would be ruining her vision and the photos and wedding video that she and her fiancé would be putting together for his grandparents to view, as they wouldn't be able to fly in from Argentina. "I apologised, paid for my meal, and left."
Not knowing how to deal with the situation, the bridesmaid felt helpless. "I really don't want to dye my hair, but I also don't want to ruin [her] picture perfect day. I don't think I'm being difficult or wrong here."
Flocking to share their thoughts in the comments, many people were outraged by the bride's demands. "I would've backed out on the demand to wear contacts. Trying to force others to bleach hair for a wedding? Absurd. Just back out now, it's not worth being part of this crazy Elsa themed wedding. She's only going to get worse. Run."
Many people couldn't help but compare the bride's vision to the film Frozen . "Tell her to let it go cause these are horrible requests. I'll be surprised if she ends up with anyone in the wedding party. Even Olaf wouldn't put up with that!" one person cracked. "Funny thing is if she gets her 'vision' it's very likely in just a few years she'll look back at her wedding pictures and cringe," another commented.
Another person noted how wigs would have made an ideal solution. "They make very realistic lace fronts these days. Bleaching your hair is extreme and very bad for your hair, I would bow out of the wedding altogether if I couldn't wear a wig."
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