'My partner takes days off just for himself - I never get a break from our kid'

24 February 2023 , 15:45

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She is starting to resent him (stock photo) (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

A woman is growing resentful of her partner as he takes days off just for himself while she never gets a break from their kid.

She works 30-hours a week and still does the lion's share of the childcare but does not like the way her partner whinges when he is asked to do something on his day off.

Juggling parental responsibilities with work can be one of the toughest jobs for any parents as it is so important to get some time to rest for yourself.

Now in a Mumsnet post, this mum asked for advice on how to get him to do more.

He whinges when he is asked to do something on his day off (stock photo) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)

The woman, who remained anonymous, wrote: "I work 30-hours a week, pre school hours don’t cover my hours, so I’m either working (hours are flexible) or looking after our child.

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"Partner works full time, has weekends off and one day midweek every other week and then an occasional days holiday midweek. The midweek days off my partner has our child is at pre school so he has the full day to himself."

If she asks her partner to do something like the school run when he is on a day off, he doesn't like it but does not seem to understand that she is not able to take these days to herself so wants him to do more.

"It’s an issue as I’m struggling to keep on top of our housework/ laundry (he does help with this but I definitely do the majority). I also desperately need some time to myself and feel resentful," he said.

In response, many have sided with her and said she is definitely not expecting too much as her partner should be doing more.

One person wrote: "You should have a serious word as to how unhappy and shattered up are. But stop enabling him."

While another stated: "On his regular day off he should do the drop offs and collects, along with one main job which will help the house."

A third penned: "Sit down together and draw up a time budget."

Freddie Bennett