'My cheap boyfriend tried to reuse engagement ring he bought his ex - I refuse'

21 July 2023 , 14:45

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The engagement ring was meant for her boyfriend's ex (stock image) (Image: Getty Images)

An engagement ring is supposed to symbolise the start of two people's lives together - as well as your commitment to love and cherish them. It's usually a piece of jewellery that a person is going to wear forever, so it has to be the right style to suit them - and something you think they'll like.

So when one woman realised that her boyfriend was about to propose with the ring he had got with the intention of giving it to his ex-girlfriend, she was understandably upset.

Explaining the situation on forum website Reddit, the anonymous user explained that her boyfriend never ended up giving his ex the ring because they broke up. He had even considered selling it, but decided against it.

In the post, the woman continued: "He had been planning to propose for a while and he showed me this ring. It is pretty and I thought it was ok that we use it. Then later when I asked him where he got it from, he sheepishly told me.

"I told him not to propose with it and actually don't know if I want to be engaged at all right now, because he didn't tell me right from the start where this ring came from and of course he's being cheap."

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The woman received lots of support from Reddit users, with many agreeing that you don't "re-gift" an engagement ring. One person added: "That ring was chosen for his ex, not for you. He can easily trade up at the jewellery store or sell it to get something special for you."

Another agreed, commenting: "Engagement rings are incredibly intimate items. Single use almost, as the item is intended to be worn by only one person (chosen by the buyer). Rings of this nature aren't reusable unless they're family heirlooms."

However, some believed she was overthinking the situation, with one person saying: "Unpopular opinion but I doubt any man looks at a ring and goes 'wow! I bet this .75 carat solitaire REALLY suits my ex’s personality and I should especially choose it'. Nah he would have picked the same for any woman because he liked it, no more no less."

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Ariane Sohrabi-Shiraz