'My daughter was a bridesmaid at her teacher's wedding - but I regret it'

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A mum has admitted that she regrets having her daughter be bridesmaid at her teacher
A mum has admitted that she regrets having her daughter be bridesmaid at her teacher's wedding (stock photo) (Image: Getty Images/EyeEm)

Weddings are undeniably stressful - from choosing the venue, picking out the perfect dress, and even deciding on a wedding bouquet. Apparently, however, choosing the bridesmaids is another issue entirely.

A mum has admitted that she's wound up her sister-in-law as her five-year-old has refused to be a bridesmaid at her brother's upcoming wedding. Taking to popular forum Mumsnet, the anonymous woman admitted that the problem initially began when her little girl was asked to be a flower girl at her teacher's wedding a few years back.

Ever since, the woman's daughter has refused to wear dresses and dislikes flashing photographs.

'My daughter was a bridesmaid at her teacher's wedding - but I regret it' qhiukiuiqkqinvThe woman's sister-in-law is fuming that the child is refusing to be bridesmaid (stock photo) (Getty Images/EyeEm)

The woman explained: "My daughter (5) is honestly a gorgeous child. She is so pretty that one of her Montessori teachers asked me if my daughter could be her flower girl and after talking it over with my daughter I agreed.

"A bad idea my daughter did not like her dress and did not like flashy photographs, while she did do the walk perfectly she broke down right after and I had to take her home.

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"Now my brother is getting married and they have asked my daughter to be at the wedding as a flower girl. When I asked my daughter she flatly refused. The previous wedding happened a couple of months ago so she still remembers it."

Despite trying to convince her daughter, the mum admitted her little one is her 'own person' and says that dealing with a 'grumpy and screaming toddler' is not her cup of tea.

'My daughter was a bridesmaid at her teacher's wedding - but I regret it'The mum is not forcing her daughter to be bridesmaid (stock photo) (Getty Images)

She went on: "When I told my brother this he and his fiancé lost it. She accused me of being jealous of her wedding (I had a courthouse wedding) and that I was rising my daughter to be a selfish person who doesn't care about her family and welcoming new members.

"She said that if I don't let her have my daughter as a flower girl, all future children that they have will not ever meet her. Which my brother fully supports.

"My family is telling me to just go with it and that she won't even remember when she is older but she will blame me for breaking a bond with her future cousins. But my husband said do you really want them to be around our daughter if they act like this over a small thing.

Seeking advice, she questioned: "Am I the a**hole?"

Flocking to the comment section, Reddit users sympathised with the mum, assuring her that her sister-in-law was being out of line.

One person said: "Future sister-in-law doesn't love her. She just wants her as a prop.

They questioned: "Has either she or your brother ever spent a lot of time with her? Watched movies with her? Played with her? Taken her out for a meal at her favourite child-friendly restaurant? Anything?"

Meanwhile, someone else wrote: "You know what's really going to ruin their wedding pictures? And even more so a video? A screaming toddler sitting in the middle of the floor.

'I don't want children staying up late at weekends - I really need adult time''I don't want children staying up late at weekends - I really need adult time'

"They aren't just jerks, they are profoundly incapable of imagination," they added.

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