'My wife left me after I won a couple's holiday and went without her'
A woman left her partner after he decided to go on a couple's holiday without her.
For most people with a partner, the idea of landing a free, all-inclusive holiday for two is a thing of dreams.
The prospect of heading home with the good news that you're jetting off to Greece to be pampered sounds like it'd offer any relationship a little boost.
Not so for one 28-year-old man who was lucky enough to bag the free break through a charity fundraiser.
"I was thrilled, as it's somewhere I've always wanted to visit," he wrote on Reddit.
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"I told my wife that I won, and she was also very glad and told me she couldn't wait to come along.
The woman was not overly impressed with her partner (Getty Images/Image Source)"Here's the thing: me and my wife (27F) are pretty much polar opposites when it comes to travel."
While the competition winner enjoys "being a bit lazy" and waking up late when on holiday, his partner "likes to plan out a full schedule, wake up early, do loads of sight-seeing, walk around all day in the city and come back to the hotel exhausted".
"We've tried to come up with compromise solutions in the past, but it hasn't really worked," he wrote.
"She gets very restless staying put in the hotel with me even for a single day (and complains about it constantly), and if I tell her to go by herself she tells me she'll be lonely or doesn't feel safe travelling alone.
"In the past, I've always ended up giving in and going with her.
"Recently though, I've had a stressful couple months at work and I'm craving an opportunity to completely decompress without any schedule to stick to. So that was my plan for this trip."
After thinking about it for "a long time" - although arguably not long enough - the man decided he would go on the couple's holiday alone.
"I didn't want to run the risk of having her complain all day even if she promised to do things in a more relaxed way, nor did I want to run the risk of being dragged unwillingly to museums by her," he explained.
"It took me about a week to decide this. So once I'd decided, I sat down and tried to broach the matter as sensitively as I could.
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"My wife was FURIOUS. She'd had to pull in some favours to get time off work for the trip, and was completely outraged that I hadn't told her this sooner.
"In my defence, I didn't know she was going to so much trouble. If I'd known I would've told her about my hesitance.
"I didn't tell her as soon as I won the tickets because I wanted to avoid an unnecessary fight.
He decided to head to Greece by himself (Getty Images/iStockphoto)"She told me I'd be sorry if I didn't let her come, and then she basically accused me of cheating, saying that it was a couple's vacation and the only reason I wouldn't want to go with her was if I were planning to bring somebody else along, and that she didn't buy any of the reasons I gave above."
In the days before the holiday "things were a little cold between" the duo, "but I thought she'd managed to get over it" by the time the husband set off.
"I carried through with my plan of going alone and I had a fantastic time," he recalled. "In what isn't exactly a surprise twist, the well rested husband returned to his home to find his wife gone.
"I got back three days ago, only to find that she, and all her stuff, were completely gone," he wrote.
"She left a letter on the counter calling me all manner of horrible things.
"I know I haven't been an angel over this, but I don't think her reaction is reasonable. I want to try and get her back because I love her."
The man's explanation for his actions did not go down well with the people of Reddit.
"If you truly valued your marriage more than some stupid trip, you would have compromised," one person wrote.
"You would have spent the odd days vacationing your wife's way, with excursions throughout the city, seeing everything you could from sunup to sunset, and the even days vacationing your way, getting up late, reading a book in a cafe you discovered together, strolling through the city together, relaxing.
"It's called compromise. Instead, your actions informed her that you'd prefer to be a single guy."
Another added: "You didn't even have the guts to communicate your intentions with her? Eek. Marriage involves compromise; if you can't do, you shouldn't be married. Your attitude of 'my trip' isn't in the spirit of this.
"I think you may need to accept that it's over. I don't know many women who'd tolerate this - fair play to her."
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