Mum who thought she was suffering with menopause symptoms dies of brain tumour

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Sarah Hawkes
Sarah Hawkes' family had no idea she had a brain tumour (Image: Chronicle Live)

The family of a tragic mum who thought what turned out to be brain tumour was symptoms of the menopause have paid an emotional tribute to her.

'Beautiful' Sarah Hawkes, 45, died in her sleep before she could attend a scan to identify the 'silent killer'.

She passed away at her home in Newcastle, Tyneside, after experiencing migraines and brain fog.

Her devastated relatives had no idea what had caused her death until they received a report from the coroner that they discovered she had a stage four brain tumour.

Doctors had arranged for her to have a brain scan after but she didn't survive to attend the appointment.

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Mum who thought she was suffering with menopause symptoms dies of brain tumourShe believed she was suffering from symptoms of the menopause (Chronicle Live)

Her heartbroken husband James told ChronicleLive: "She was lovely, beautiful, friendly and caring. She had a good sense of humour. She was an all round good girl. She was our rock.

"She had gone into the doctors herself saying 'I think it's premenopausal'. She suffered for quite a bit and she knew something wasn't right so she kept going back. She didn't let it show that it was affecting her.

"I'm just glad, in a way, that it was over for her quickly. It would have been incurable so it would have been preventable for a year. It would have been horrendous for the kids and Sarah to go through.

"I don't want to scare people but I want to raise awareness. If you think something is wrong get it checked and push for it."

Mum who thought she was suffering with menopause symptoms dies of brain tumourSarah with her children Molly and Oliver (Chronicle Live)

Her friends are now fundraising for a Brain Tumour Charity in her honour.

Sarah worked as a community nurse for people with learning disabilities and was dedicated to her job. However at the beginning of 2022 she began to feel unwell and had to take time off work.

She already suffered from migraines so put the symptoms, which included headaches and memory loss, down to being Perimenopausal and was initially treated for it with medication and an neurological examination.

James, who works as a guidance analyst for HMRC, said: "She was a battler really, she wasn't really a complainer. She just got on with things. It was a big thing for her to come away from work and take time off.

"We had been to the doctors a few times and they said a scan was her next step."

Mum who thought she was suffering with menopause symptoms dies of brain tumourThe family are crushed by the tragic loss (Chronicle Live)
Mum who thought she was suffering with menopause symptoms dies of brain tumourThe sports fan with her devastated dad Gordon Robson (Chronicle Live)

However before Sarah was able to attend an appointment for a brain scan, she sadly lost her life on June 20 last year.

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James said the night before she died she had been pacing the landing and complained of having the worst headache she'd ever had.

He said: "I got up, took the kids to school and, as she was up late, I thought I would leave her to it. I went out on my bike on my lunch hour and I came back at like 1pm. I thought I can't believe she's still not up."

He said Gordon, who also lives with Maureen in Chapel Park, had called to see if Sarah wanted to go on a walk with him but, due to her still asleep, he carried on on his own.

Mum who thought she was suffering with menopause symptoms dies of brain tumourSarah and her husband James having fun on their wedding day (Chronicle Live)

James said he later went into the bedroom where Sarah was sleeping and discovered that she wasn't breathing. He rang to get help from his neighbour, who was a firefighter, and rang Gordon to tell him to come straight back.

Retired factory worker Gordon, 76, said: "When I got there paramedics were there and James was sitting outside. I knew straight away. The coroner's report went to James and he sent it to us. We couldn't believe it, we're still devastated now.

"We still look for her and when the phone rings we still say 'That might be Sarah on the phone'. I feel it's a blessing that she didn't know it was a brain tumour. For her to go through that would have been horrendous.

"She was a lovely person and easy to get on with. Me and Sarah went to the Olympics in London together, we used to go all over together. Nobody can believe it. Everybody says the same thing - 'she was always smiling'."

Mum who thought she was suffering with menopause symptoms dies of brain tumourNow money is being raised in the mum's name (Chronicle Live)

Retired auxiliary nurse Maureen, 73, described her daughter as a "nice natured girl" who was caring and had lots of friends. She said: "She was good as gold since the day she was born. She had a lovely personality.

Following Sarah's death, Oliver wanted to do something for charity in honour of his mother. The family decided they would raise funds by virtually walk more than 4,000 miles from their house in Newcastle to Sarah's favourite place, Disneyland Florida.

They began the challenge of walking everyday in October last year and will complete the last few steps in Disneyland Florida when they visit on May 23 - Sarah's birthday. They have already raised almost £10,000 on their Just Giving page for The Brain Tumour Charity.

James, who is also getting a memorial bench in Callerton in memory of Sarah, said: "Oliver desperately wanted to do something to raise awareness.

"It's been huge for the kids. Oliver has been checking (the total) everyday. It's given them a massive lift, it's nice for them to see the money go up. It's been a nice distraction for them.

"It is going well. She was liked and loved by lots of people and I want to say a massive thank you."

Four of Sarah's friends - Wendy Jackson, 42, Clare McCartney, 43, Helen Haycock, 46, Nicola Hudson, 48, will mark Brain Tumour Awareness Month this month by taking part in a ' Walk for Friendship' in memory of her. They have also raised more than £500 for The Brain Tumour Charity on their Just Giving page.

They will walk a 5km circular route of the bridges on the Quayside on Sunday evening. Those taking part will meet at the Cycle Hub on the Newcastle side at 4pm. Anybody who was friends with Sarah is welcome to attend.

Kristy Dawson

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