'My husband is obsessed with saving - his guilt-tripping is making me miserable'

08 March 2024 , 10:58

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The man is not struggling - but has become hooked on saving (Stock photo) (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

A woman is being urged to file for divorce if her money-obsessed husband doesn't change his ways.

Amid the cost of living crisis, thousands of Brits are feeling the strain on our finances. Child care is extortionate, food prices have skyrocketed, and energy bills have spiralled out of control. All of this has made us more frugal and less reckless with our spending.

But, is it possible to take things too far? One man has resorted to taking his own drinks when his mates invite him down to the pub, refuses to put the heating on when it's freezing, only buys yellow sticker food - and won't stop talking about money.

Taking to Mumset, the concerned wife says her partner is not on the breadline, and has 'plenty' of dosh through savings, inheritance, and employment etc. They have separate finances and both work full time, but can't even enjoy a coffee date together as he 'ruins it by moaning about the cost'.

In fact, the anonymous woman says her husband has become 'completely' obsessed with money, to the point where he is guilt-tripping her whenever she makes a purchase - even though it's with her own money. "I liked his sensible attitude to money when we met, but it seems to have turned into an obsession and I don't know what to do about it," she said.

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"I have tried to talk about it and find out what the cause is but it doesn't stop and I don't think he recognises it. I am not saying I expect to be blowing money all the time as I am quite frugal myself and don't need a lot, it's just a drain when someone asks you all the time what you have in your savings and why have you bought this/that etc." The woman says she is now riddled with guilt and questions every penny she spends - which is starting to make her anxious. "It drives me mad," she added.

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Many took to the comments section to share their thoughts - with an overwhelming majority condemning the husband for being 'awful to live with'. "I think you need to spell it out to him that you will leave him unless he lays off the guilt tripping and boring behaviour," one user wrote. "It's just not attractive."

Another agreed, commenting: "I have frugal instincts but he is extreme. Money is supposed to facilitate your life not your life facilitate money." While a third said the level obsession could turn into a 'mental health issue'. They added: "Well we are all watching our pennies but this is taking to an extreme." A fourth wrote: "He sounds like the kind of person who will be the richest man in the graveyard. You only get one life."

Liam Gilliver