Man's world crumbles after wife makes brutal sex confession about her ex

27 February 2024 , 11:51

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The man's wife insists on checking up on her exes to 'see if they're ok' (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

A man has made the decision to file for divorce after discovering his wife's suspicious interactions with her exes.

The husband admitted that the couple have had issues in the past due to his wife's insistence on checking up on her ex-boyfriends to 'see if they are ok'. After he expressed his discomfort, she promised to stop and blocked them all as contacts.

However, just recently, while he was travelling, he discovered that she was trying to get back in contact with her ex.

"She claims she just wanted to check in and see how he is doing. All of this happened behind my back, and if I hadn't found out and confronted her, she probably would have brushed it off," he wrote anonymously on Reddit.

"I feel lost; to me, this is cheating. I don't trust her anymore, and I am considering divorce. This situation is not healthy for our relationship, and I have expressed several times how her actions affect me."

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The couple share two young children together but the man admitted he is just tired of constantly worrying about his wife reaching out to her exes.

"I told her I want a divorce, but she keeps saying it won't happen again and we should try to work things out. However, I honestly don't want to. Even if we go to counselling, I'm exhausted. At this point, I just want the kids to be happy, and I'm willing to live with her for a while until we prepare the kids and our finances for the divorce, but not as a couple. Am I overreacting?"

The man later returned to Reddit to address a few critical comments suggesting he was being 'controlling'. "Edit: This ex was not a relationship; they just hooked up several times because my ex was afraid of getting into a relationship with this guy. She has stated multiple times how nice he is, how wild the sex was, and she even talked about our relationship with him.

"I completely disagree that I'm controlling," he continued. "I expressed how I felt, and she willingly said she would block them. I will never disregard my feelings; prioritising my own well-being and emotional health is most important to me right now.

"The kids are definitely mine; I don't care about the financial part, as money is not an issue. If she wants child support, alimony, whatever, she will have it. I care about my mental health and being well for my children. She is making her choices, and she is free to do so, but I don't want to be a part of this. I have enjoyed my life quite a bit; I have no time for these games."

The Reddit community largely sided with the man. One wrote: "She lied to your face, broke her promise, all in pursuit of doing something most would consider cheating or at least wildly inappropriate. Intended or not, the optics and implications of unblocking and reaching back out to exes when you are away are crystal clear.

"No amount of therapy can win back the trust when she went out of her way to deliberately and methodically stab you in the back."

A second echoed: "Your partner's ongoing contact with her ex despite promises and boundaries is a betrayal of trust. Your feelings are valid, and prioritising your children's well-being is crucial. Trust is essential in a relationship, and if repeatedly broken, divorce may be a necessary step for your mental health and family stability."

In a final update, the man in question revealed he had spoken to his wife about the situation. "We've had an open conversations without judgement, with a lot of understanding. It turns out she's been hiding a lot more than I realised," he wrote.

"She's definitely been unfaithful, as she admitted. Anyway, I feel a mix of sadness and relief now that she's finally come clean. I'll eventually file for divorce and let her go once everything is sorted out. Thank you for your advice; I truly appreciate it. And to those who labelled me as jealous or controlling, well, reality can be quite different from what you assume."