Raunchy polyamory memoir dubbed 'sad' as wife shares misery at hubby and bad sex

17 February 2024 , 17:47

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Raunchy polyamory memoir written by Molly Roden Winter dubbed "sad" as wife reveals misery at husband sleeping around

A millionaire English teacher and author who shared all about her polyamorous marriage has received several comments about her "sad" life, which sees her and her husband open up their relationship to others.

From horrible sex at a down-beat motel to being enraged by her husband of ten years wanting to sleep with his ex, Molly Roden Winter has told all about the Brooklyn pair's secrets in a new book. The 51-year-old has two children with her partner Stewart and has recently chronicled the highs and lows of their marriage in her new bestseller More: A Memoir of Open Marriage.

However, some people, rather than looking at it as a tale of sexual discovery, have branded the emotional book "sad" after reading how often the author spends in floods of tears struggling to cope with the idea her husband is with another woman.

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Molly and her husband of more than 10 years, Stewart, are polyamorous

Molly was the first out of the pair to break the other's trust after she had an affair with a younger man. Something she says was down to being "weighed down by raising two young children". She met him at a bar while her husband worked late and started a flirty conversation before going home and telling her 56-year-old husband Stewart.

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Instead of flying off the rail, or being angry, he encourages her to sleep with this new man. Molly does exactly that but is taken aback when her husband then asks if he can have a fling with his ex-partner. She explains: "The thought of them together makes me feel like I've fallen to the bottom of a well. 'I'm not sure,' I say, still not looking at him. I'm afraid I'll start to cry if I do."

The mother-of-two outlined the highs and lows of an open relationship

Despite reluctantly saying yes, and wishing her husband would see she is lying, he begins to see a string of other women which Molly reveals left her feeling jealous and wanting to close their marriage again. "Molly might have been more discerning than I was at that point," she explained. The memoir went into great detail about the author's sexual activity during her poly relationship, including one man who kept 'forgetting' to use a condom, or another who insisted on meeting at pay-hourly motels.

The mother-of-two, who eventually ended up needing therapy, said: The bad sex taught me a lot more about what makes sex good. I also wanted to tell the truth about how hard it was. It's like I'm just reacting to what men want' she tells the therapist. From my vantage point, it seems like Stewart is having nothing but fun as he jaunts along the open-marriage path' she explains. We're here because I don't want to be in an open marriage anymore. But Stewart does,' Roden Winter later tells their couples therapist."

The memoir ends in 2018 when Molly's boyfriend, whose wife had recently divorced him, broke up with her after she refused to end her own marriage.

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The pair live in Brooklyn together

One review of the book said: "Roden Winter sobs in hotel rooms on work trips, she sobs in hotel rooms on sex trips, she sobs in her own Park Slope home. For every one orgasm scene, there are three of sobbing fits." Others have described it as "breathtakingly candid" as she "cast off internalised sexism and her tendency to put others' needs before her own."

Molly continued: "We expect mothers to be selfless. And 'selfless' is often thought of as the opposite of selfish, but I want to make a new word: 'self-full'. You should have a full self, you shouldn't have to give up yourself to be a mother. I don't think that's helpful to children either."

Psychotherapist Jessica Fearn, who specialises in people with open relationships, says being polyamorous is very rare. She added: "Her story, which is about what it means for a mother to be erotically charged, that story I haven't seen enough yet."

Now becoming famous on TikTok, Molly has been speaking to her many followers. In one video she says: "There was a lot of years where I was not handling it very gracefully. It was really, really hard, but it's got much easier for me. There's a type of jealousy and possessiveness within romantic relationships that we assume as natural and correct. But we do not extend that to friendships that are not romantic. I'd never say to one of my friends, 'It's really important to me that you're only friends with me. It's not exactly the same, but that's the way it feels to me now."

Roden Winter is still polyamorous with a long-term restaurateur boyfriend, who has a wife who herself has a girlfriend, while her husband Stewart has a girlfriend of eight years.

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