'I have triple D boobs - and I'm being forced to wear skimpy bridesmaid dress'
A bridesmaid who has a triple D chest and never wears strapless tops has told how she is furious at being forced to wear a dress for her partner's sister's wedding that is way too revealing for someone her size. She also revealed that there was no shapewear she would be able to wear underneath to try to mitigate the nature of the dress. And fellow users of the popular site have backed her all the way, with some saying she should drop out of the wedding altogether.
Posters on Reddit blasted her future sister-in-law for not putting people's comfort before her own "selfish" needs and cautioned that her partner's sister is unlikely to "stop there", while others said that she should wear the dress, but only to upstage the 'picky' bride and teach her a lesson in being more understanding of people's body sizes.
The woman said: "I miss the days when bridesmaids were treated like people and not like stage props! My future sister-in-law is getting married so of course I’m a default bridesmaid. She didn’t give us options for the dress, she picked it out and told us it’s the one we’ll be wearing.
"The dress is a strapless, backless, thigh-slit halter neck. I am a larger girl – triple D chest should explain why I don’t wear backless or halter styles. Backless means I can’t wear any form of supportive bra and there is virtually no shapewear I can put underneath it. The only bras that work are stickies or tape, which do not hold me up in the least."
She said that she tried on the dress on and that her chest was spilling out of it, with her back rolls also on display. She explained that it makes her feel very uncomfortable so said to the bride that she was sorry, she knows it's her big day, but there was no way she could wear the dress.
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The unhappy woman said: "My body shape is different from the rest of the bridal party and I can’t justify wearing it. I told her I’d be fine if I can simply modify it to be more conservative at the back and chest. She declined and told me to 'just be more confident in myself' because all the dresses must be identical for photos.
"I have no body confidence issues, there are plenty of styles that suit my figure. It just so happens that this dress was not made for larger women and does not look appropriate on my body. I want to drop out of the wedding but my family insists I stay in because it’s my sister-in-law and it would 'ruin' the wedding and the relationship.
The bridesmaid also said that she didn't understand why she had to "be paraded around in front of my entire family, extended family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, etc in an outfit that makes me uncomfortable", adding: "Brides – please have enough tact to make sure your girls are comfortable on your special day. We’re humans, not props."
One poster on the site had emphatic advice for her, saying: "Drop out of the wedding. A bride who is that insistent on her vision over the comfort of people who are supposed to be her nearest and dearest isn’t going to stop with dresses. Next will be insisting on a bachelorette party nobody can afford, demanding that you use her makeup artist at your own expense, etc, etc, etc. I hope your fiancé will support you if you decide to bail out, even if the rest of the family is pressuring you.
And another said: "Absolutely not. I wouldn’t want to wear that either. I am just a regular old D/DD and I made a hard and fast rule when I hit 35ish that I just wasn’t going to do strapless anymore – definitely no backless. No cutouts. Nothing. If I can’t wear normal underwear and sit in a normal, comfortable position, I don’t want it," while yet another said: "Let her know that you will be a 'distraction' and everyone will be watching your boobs to see where they are going to pop out next."
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