Students banned from hugging as fuming parents slam 'draconian' new school rules

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Parents have slammed Hylands School following the new rules (Image: Essex Live/BPM Media)
Parents have slammed Hylands School following the new rules (Image: Essex Live/BPM Media)

A school has been branded as "draconian" after implementing "archaic" new rules which include a ban on students hugging each other.

Parents have slammed Hylands School in Chelmsford, Essex due to the "lack of communication with parents" after finding out about the new policies from their children.

The school is now banning pupils from hugging and holding hands, reports Essex Live.

The secondary school has also said that they "do not allow" romantic relationships between the students, and those that are caught with mobile phones on their persons during school time could have them locked in a safe for the rest of the day.

A strict "hands off" policy among other rules has also been introduced.

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However, the school has claimed that most parents and pupils support the policy, claiming that it "engenders mutual respect and encourages pupils to behave professionally as any future employer would expect."

Students banned from hugging as fuming parents slam 'draconian' new school rulesThe school has said that the rules have been put in place as they want 'pupils to behave professionally as any future employer would expect' (Google Maps)

A letter sent by assistant headteacher Miss Catherine McMillan, says they do not tolerate "any physical contact" between members of the school community.

But the school has come under fire from parents after they have claimed that they had not been told about the new policy prior to the letter, which was sent on January 9.

Instead, they heard about the new rules from their children.

One parent, who did not want to be named, said: "I couldn't believe it. In this day and age, I agree that inappropriate touching - hitting and punching - of course has to be dealt with. But they're not teaching students how to have a healthy relationship.

"The inference is that you can't touch anyone, children won't know what is or isn't appropriate, and the ability to empathise with their peers is being taken away. I have a daughter and her and her friends greet each other with a hug, but if they do that now they'll [face being] put into isolation."

The parent added: "Human instinct is that if your friend fell over you might help them up. But now they're having their privileges threatened such as losing their lunch or morning breaks, or even isolation for the day - which is all so draconian.

"There's been a huge outcry from other parents. Partly because of the lack of communication with parents, all we've been told is what students tell us. But it's also such an archaic approach and is not needed in this day and age. After the pandemic, where everyone was starved of human contact, you are now setting everything back. It's not going to help students' mental health either."

Students banned from hugging as fuming parents slam 'draconian' new school rulesParents say that they only learnt of the new rules from the pupuls (Getty Images/iStockphoto)

The letter sent by the Chelmsford school says forms of physical contact which are not tolerated include "any aggressive physical contact, hugging, holding hands, slapping someone, etc."

It continues: "This is in order to keep your child safe. If your child is touching somebody else, whether they are consenting or not, anything could happen. It could lead to an injury, make someone feel very uncomfortable, or someone being touched inappropriately.

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"While we want your children to make really positive friendships, hopefully lifelong ones, we don't allow romantic relationships at Hylands. Your child is of course able to have these relationships with your permission outside of school.

"We want your child to focus on their learning while in school and we don’t want them to be distracted by relationship issues. In your child's Personal Development lessons we learn about positive, healthy relationships and your child can still talk to a trusted adult in school for advice and support if they need to."

Ms Maggie Callaghan, executive headteacher at Hylands School, responded to the comments, saying that the school "encourages pupils to behave professionally."

The headteacher said: "We always seek to work closely with parents in order to ensure that our pupils are safe and happy.

"Most parents and pupils support this policy which engenders mutual respect and encourages pupils to behave professionally as any future employer would expect."

Matt Lee

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