Man who had vasectomy left mortified as girlfriend tells him she's pregnant

26 November 2023 , 15:21

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A man was left wondering how best to proceed with his relationship when he was keeping his vasectomy a secret from his girlfriend - but she then announced that she was pregnant, leaving him with more questions than answers.

If you've ever been cheated on, you'll know the sickening, gut-wrenching feeling - and you'll understand it's tricky to bring it up to your partner if you find out behind their back.

One man was left in a sticky situation, however, when he caught his own girlfriend in a lie, thanks to a huge secret he'd been keeping from her for the length of their partnership.

The man claimed that his girlfriend cheated on him, and he's quite sure of this allegation, as she said that she was pregnant, without knowing that he had a vasectomy - making it impossible for him to be dad.

The anonymous man wrote to the Daily Star's agony aunt Jane O'Gorman to seek advice as he's unsure about how to approach the subject with his seemingly unfaithful partner.

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He said: "My girlfriend has announced she's pregnant and I'm about to become a father. The only problem is that I had a vasectomy two years before we met."

The boyfriend continues to say that the woman has claimed that their contraception didn't work - but he's not convinced, as he writes: "She's lying. She's obviously been having sex with another bloke."

This isn't the first red flag in their relationship, as the man has struggled to trust his partner before. I've had my suspicions for ages. A few months ago, she started wearing fancy outfits to work and coming home late", he shared.

"Over the summer she announced she had a training weekend and I guessed she was going away with a secret lover. I'm so disappointed. I thought she might be the one. How long should I make her sweat?"

Advice columnist Jane said: "This is not a game. You have to tell her the truth straight away, so she can decide what to do about the pregnancy. I understand that you're upset, but don't waste any more time. Explain about your vasectomy so that she understands that the baby cannot be yours."

Jane explains that the woman needs to tell the other man about the baby if she has been unfaithful, and urges the boyfriend not to wait too long to confront her about the situation so they can all be on the same page, writing: "She may have let you down and disappointed you, but you cannot leave her in the dark because this is too serious."

Danielle Kate Wroe