'My husband booked a family holiday without me - I'm so hurt that nobody cares'
A mum was left furious after her husband booked a trip to visit family while knowing she couldn't make it.
Her other half was planning the journey to be a week long, and they normally make the six-hour trip together once or twice a year. But despite his wife telling him she had planned on the dates he wanted to book, he went ahead and bought accommodation without asking her.
"He said the dates he would like to go are from Friday to Friday, however, I have two things on that weekend that have been planned for months (a friend's 40th evening out on the Saturday night and a concert on the Sunday evening). This is very rare for me as I rarely go out and just so happens these two plans have ended up on the same weekend (I would say this year I have been out twice so not like I am always out doing things very far from it)," she wrote in a post on BabyCentre.
In a bid to try and salvage the holiday, she came up with some alternatives. She explained: "I said I didn't want to miss these plans and can't we go on the Monday to Monday like we did last year. He didn't want to do that as the second weekend the kid's football matches are back on and he doesn't want them missing them. I said 'Okay how about Monday to Friday' but he wants a weekend there. Anyway, he basically has gone on to just book the accommodation for the dates he wants to do (Friday to Friday) and said I can just fly up on the Monday morning."
Matters were made worse when the husband invited his parents and in-laws to the trip and only told his wife after they had booked it. As the rest of the family aren't staying the whole time, meaning the mum would only see them for a day if she were to fly in on the Monday.
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Explaining she had been hurt by the lack of an effort to help her come, the woman said: "Literally my whole family now are going away and no one seems to care at all if I’m there or not. So now I either have to cancel my plans with my friends and I do feel if I don't go to my friend's 40th (I) probably won't be invited out again with that group.
"And I know my two best friends who I’m meant to be going to the concert with will also be annoyed as it was my idea to go and I arranged it/booked tickets. If I just carry on with my plans I won't see my children for three nights which I have never done before.
"Me and my husband have four children together, one of which is a one-year-old and I have never been away from her for more than three hours (I'm a SAHP). Our other three children have had sleepovers at grandparents before but have not been away from them either for that amount of time.
"Also our oldest son is going on a school trip for two nights before this holiday so I won't see him from Wednesday to Monday apart from briefly seeing him for 10 mins probably from picking him up from school on Friday and then waving them off in the car to go on their trip. I'm just so annoyed that my husband just doesn't seem to care if I go or not or is he trying to sabotage my plans as he knows I will hate to be away from the kids. I know my (mother-in-law) will basically take my role on while I'm not there so he will have help.
"I honestly feel like none of my family (including my own parents) actually care about me and I'm pretty irrelevant (I don't think I've ever felt so low and worthless, to be honest). Am I being unreasonable to be upset or am I being sensitive? I also don't know what to do let down my friends and possibly lose friendships or be away from my children for so long when I really don't want to be."
Most users thought joining the group a few days later wasn't a big deal. "Why would you have to cancel anything?" one said. "Just get over it and go on the Monday if you don't want to miss out on the lot. Your kids will be grand without you being in the same house for a couple of nights, as will you."
Another, who had a bit more sympathy for the poster's position, added: "You are out Saturday and Sunday so he might as well have the family time and help with kids. Enjoy your time off and relax. I would be tempted to take an extra day or two."
"Everyone well looked after I would chill on the Monday and go Tuesday or Wednesday if at all - he is being a bit s****y I agree with booking a holiday when you cant go - I am on your side there and would be livid but I would just not go at all and leave him to it if my oh behaved like that - suspect you could not do that."
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