Dad shamed by his own brother for refusing to walk his daughter down the aisle

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The brother has offered to walk his niece down the aisle himself (stock image) (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)
The brother has offered to walk his niece down the aisle himself (stock image) (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

According to tradition, the bride is walked down the aisle on her wedding day by her father, but sometimes it's not as straight forward as that. There are many reasons your dad might not walk you down the aisle, for example if they have passed away or are no longer part of your life.

One dad has asked his daughter to postpone the wedding to give him more time to come to terms with the fact that she is marrying a woman. His furious brother has said he will step in and walk his niece down the aisle, but the bride's dad says he is 'undermining' his relationship with his daughter.

Dad shamed by his own brother for refusing to walk his daughter down the aisle qhiukiqrihtinvThe dad is struggling with the fact that his daughter is marrying another woman (stock image) (Getty Images/Tetra images RF)

The bride-to-be's uncle has explained the situation on Reddit's Am I The A**hole forum, and asked for advice. The anonymous man explained: "My brother has a difficult relationship with his daughter. His wife comes from a conservative christian church.

"Lo and behold when she's 17 his daughter comes out as a lesbian. This was an awkward situation to say the least, and it ended up with her living with our parents for the rest of high school, and them paying for her college. I tried to be a safe space for her, because she's a great kid with a bright future ahead of her and her now-fiancée is basically already my other niece."

In the past two years the parents have tried to reconnect with their daughter, and appeared to make some progress with the help of family therapy. However, the daughter is getting married in six months, which has brought the situation to a head.

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The man continued: "She really wants her parents to be there. They, however, still say that this is a 'mental block' for them. They've actually asked her to move the wedding back so they have more time to adjust to the idea of her being married to another woman."

The bride-to-be's uncle was appalled that they didn't want to watch "their daughter marry the love of her life", and offered to walk her down the aisle himself.

He explained that his brother had not been happy about this, and "showed up in a huff and demanded to know where I got off undermining his relationship with his daughter, why I would try to push him out, he has the right to 'give his own daughter away'."

He reminded his brother that his son is also gay, and that "I need to make sure he knows he's safe with us" and he'd be doing a poor job of that if he took his side over his niece's.

He continued: "Here's where I may be the a**hole: he asked if I was saying that my relationship with my son is more important than his relationship with his daughter. I responded 'yes, because I don't have to see a f*****g therapist to teach me how to love my own f*****g kid."

The man's wife said he "could have handled it better", but many in the comment section think he "handled it perfectly".

One person said: "You told your brother the truth, and the truth hurts. He chose to throw away his relationship with his daughter as she didn't fit the mould in which was suitable for her parents lifestyle and as such he now has to continue to accept the consequences of his actions and if he needs a therapist to teach him how to love his daughter then too bad for him."

Another said: "Your brother already 'gave his daughter away' at 17 when she went to live with her grandparents."

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Ariane Sohrabi-Shiraz

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