'My fiancée is threatening to call off wedding if in-laws can't move in with us'
After coming into a large sum of money following his grandfather's death, a man admits that he feels "trapped" as his fiancée is forcing him to split his new wealth.
Despite the woman's parents openly hating him, the bride-to-be is insisting that her family move into the "massive" estate that was left to him in his grandfather's will.
Taking to popular forum site Reddit, the anonymous user claimed that he initially "laughed" about the idea - but it turns out that his partner was completely serious and is even refusing to call off the wedding.
He explained: "After my grandfather's death six months ago, I inherited 90% of his wealth with a no-contest will. Granting me not only enough money to never work again, but also a massive estate he claimed was his 'hunting cabin'."
She's threatening to call off the wedding unless her fiancé agrees to the compromise (stock photo) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)The man went on: "It's big enough to fit my fiancée, my parents, and her parents comfortably. However, I said I didn't want them moving in with us, and now it's turned into a total blowout.
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"After a heated debate, she agreed to sign a prenup (with witnesses around) if I agreed to buy her a 'nice ring, and a vacation once a year.' She clearly isn't with me for the money.
"Obviously this comes off as a 'rich people' problem, but up until five months ago, I was still living in a one-bedroom apartment working at a rather large supermarket retail store making $12hr (£9), and going to be paying off college debt until I was in my 60's. My Fiancée is still working her nursing job, and we've been fully living together for four years."
The man admits that he and his girlfriend have always had "zero issues" with dating, but he has a "distant" relationship with her parents.
The man has always had an 'incredibly distant' relationship with his in-laws (stock photo) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)He explained further: "I've always had an incredibly distant relationship with her parents when she introduced me to them they both stated they 'didn't like me' to my face and thought I 'wasn't good enough.' Her father even said 'not in my lifetime.' When I asked for his permission to marry his daughter, I stated the only reason I was doing it was for an olive branch.
"My parents on the other hand love my Fiancée, they scooped her up like she was one of us from the start. Has never said ANYTHING bad about her in public, nor have they in private.
"During my grandfather's decline in health, I was the first one there. He just got old, and with being old comes complications. I stopped working my 'higher paying' job to work retail to have more time to take care of him, because his other children were 'busy.'
"I brought it up to my girlfriend how taking care of my grandfather, has really made me realise how important my family is, and that I wanted to know if It was okay for my parents to move into the new house with us. My dad could retire, and my mum can spend the rest of her life relaxing not stressing over bills/debt. She expressed how that was an amazing idea, and how she'd like her parents to move in as well.
"I laughed at the idea, and asked her if 'she was serious, and why would I want to live in a house with people I don't like, nor want to interact with?' She explained that this could be a good chance for us to heal old wounds, and make amends. I explained that not only do I not want to heal old wounds, but if it was up to me, they wouldn't be coming to the wedding.
"Obviously, this was the wrong thing to say, and now she's giving the ultimatum of 'let them move in, or the wedding is off.' While I can understand her side, I seriously do not want to interact with them in any capacity."
He added: "They've tried numerous times to get her back with exes, lie about me, even spread rumours about me being unfaithful, until I pulled up real evidence of me being nowhere near where they said I was thanks to Google location."
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Seeking advice, he wrote: "I feel trapped. On one hand, I do not want to live with people I absolutely hate, and on the other hand, I do not want to lose the woman of my dreams."
Taking to the comment section of the post, one person wrote: "The woman of your dreams would never allow her parents to be that vile to you and tolerate it."
Meanwhile, someone else said: "You're nuts at your age and with a potential fresh marriage to even entertain as a joke the idea of your psycho inlaws mooching off you before the ink is even dry on the marriage certificate."
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