'I want to name my daughter after my ex-girlfriend - she deserves the honour'
A man has sparked a debate after revealing how he wants to name his daughter after his ex-girlfriend who passed away. He explained how he dated Nancy for six years and was "absolutely devastated" to hear about her death two years after their relationship ended.
While he wasn't romantically involved with Nancy when she passed away, he still kept in touch with her as friends. Taking to Reddit, the 34-year-old said: "I met my wife around two months before Nancy and I separated. My wife, 31, and I are expecting a child in 12 weeks time.
"We don't know the sex of the baby but we've started thinking about baby names. A couple of nights ago we were suggesting names. I had a girlfriend for around six years before meeting my now wife. Unfortunately, she passed away and I was absolutely devastated.
"It's still painful to think about and I always imagined naming a child in her memory. I also just love the name itself, Nancy. When I made the suggestion to my wife she seemed unimpressed. She told me she didn't really feel comfortable with doing that.
"She felt it was strange and didn't make sense as Nancy had been my girlfriend. The way I see it is that Nancy was very important to me for a really long time. She was my best friend and losing her was just a terrible thing.
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"I feel as though it would be a great way to remember and honour a dear friend who I miss every day." However, his wife doesn't share this view and turned down his name suggestion. He added: "I dropped it and said it was important we both agreed on the name but she's still insisting it's strange and she doesn't understand why I suggested it.
"I don't know if she feels insecure or maybe the pregnancy is stressing her but she just won't drop it. I honestly don't see the issue whatsoever." Wanting to know whether he's in the wrong for suggesting it, he has taken to social media to ask users for their thoughts.
One user said: "Yes, you're wrong. Not how you intended it, but it comes across as "'Hey wife you're my second choice, so let's name our kid after what would have been my first choice'." Another user added: " It’s okay to still feel sad, but your wife does not need a daily reminder of your ex-girlfriend.
"I’ll be damned if I grow a baby for nine months just to name it after my husband's ex. You need to show more respect to your wife and ask her to forgive you." A third user said: "I was ready to consider that you dropped it as a mitigating factor, yet you’re continuing to profess incredulity and blame it on pregnancy stress and hormones for her very normal response and reaction of what the f***."
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