Mum fumes as in-laws snub one daughter from wedding - but invites the other

03 March 2024 , 12:53

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She couldn't believe her sister-in-law didn't know her daughter existed (Stock photo) (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

A furious mum who said her "head was going to explode," shared her frustration online after her daughter from her previous relationship was snubbed and not invited to a family wedding whilst the rest of the family were.

The tension bubbled and finally came to a head when her sister-in-law asked the youngest to be a flower girl at her wedding - leaving her 10-year-old sister in tears.

To give a little more context, she shared the time her sister-in-law had bought personalised Easter eggs for the young children in the family, including the mum's youngest daughter. She claimed she "jokingly" mentioned that her eldest daughter, 10, would be upset over being left out, but it then came to light that her sister-in-law confessed she didn't know her 10-year-old existed.

In a post to social media, the mum says this a repeated behaviour that she had challenged her in-laws about several times. In her post, the mum wrote: "I think my head's going to explode. My brother-in-law has shown no interest whatsoever in my daughters, not my eldest who isn't my husband's or his actual niece!

"We first met sister-in-law at a baptism of cousin's. She brought personalised Easter eggs for my cousins' kids and my youngest. I immediately went over and said my eldest would be jealous in a jokey way but she had no idea that my eldest even existed!"

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The mum also specified that her husband and his brother are close, she added: "Husband is close to his brother. One Sunday last month we were at our in-laws' and the eldest said that the sister-in-law had taken the youngest out in the rain and told the eldest to give them a minute.

"When I went out to see what was happening she had just asked the youngest to be a flower girl. MIL knew and everyone was happy. The 10-year-old was struggling and burst into tears in the car. Sister-in-Law has a sister with three stepkids. Two lads virtually the same age as her, both have partners and one has a baby, as well as a year old who lives with them. Her daughter will be another flower girl."

However, things didn't stop there, once the invitations came out, the mum said her 10-year-old daughter had once again snubbed and there was no invitation for her. She said: "Invitations come but my eldest isn't invited. My husband is the best man, he assumes she is invited but just not on the invitation. Clarifies! No! It would mean 5 others plus the baby would have to be invited."

There was no invitation for her 10-year-old. The mum said: "I went mad and said none of us are going or I am off. All he could do was sl*g my ex off and this was the thanks he got for stepping up."

She said, "He has stepped up. You wouldn’t know she wasn’t his but this is too much. I did ring MiL but she’s not getting involved. I am f***ing fuming."

One person commented that they were "torn," and they said "Kind of torn. I am in just same situation as had an elder child myself who was never treated as family. I wouldn't go and my youngest wouldn't be the flower girl." They added, that whilst the mum couldn't control the wedding she could control whether her family attended especially her and her daughters.

Another person was having none of it, they said: "What is it with families playing divide and concur? Who welcomes a wife and their child into their home but then stands by and allows others to treat the child any differently than their own. I wouldn't do that to my dogs, never mind a child."

Whilst another person condemned the step-dad's reaction they said: "'The thanks I get for stepping up', I'm sorry but he is lucky to have a relationship with your daughter if that's his attitude. My partner feels honoured that my daughters from a previous relationship consider him their father.

"I hate it when a new partner comes along and signals their virtue over not being a s**t step-parent."

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