'Selling dead hubby's stuff to not live with ghost, kids can buy what they want'

25 February 2024 , 18:43

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A woman has decided to sell her dead husband's stuff because her children refuse to take anything (stock image) (Image: Getty Images)

A woman has asked if she's wrong to expect her children to buy any of their deceased dad's belongings because she's decided to sell them, although she has asked the kids to take what they want numerous times before. She said that her hubby died from cancer and the death was "rough" on her grown-up children, but she also said that she was sick of seeing her dead loved-one's stuff as it was like "living with a ghost".

However, because the kids have so-far refused to take any of his stuff, she has now decided to have a yard sale and anything that doesn't go then will be put on Facebook Marketplace. But when she told one of her sons he had a very negative reaction, and when the rest of the kids found out, they also were not happy.

Writing on Reddit forum r/AmItheA**hole, she said: "He got upset for selling dad's stuff. The rest of the kids were informed and they are upset as well. I told them if they want some of his stuff then buy it at the yard sale, they had two years to grab stuff. One called me a dick and I doubting myself on this. I don’t care about the money, they could give me a penny. What I care about is that they are serious about taking it and it doesn’t come back to my home. I don’t want them to take boxes and then a few month later it’s back at my home." [sic]

Other users of the site thought she was right to give the children an ultimatum, with one saying: "Not the a*****e. But you do understand that it’s not the stuff they want but it’s that the stuff reminds them of their dad. It’s the opposite effect you’re having. That’s why they haven’t taken anything, seeing it there in the house if/when they come to visit is a comfort in a strange way that’s very different from what you’re feeling. I’d give them a last chance to come get it for free, or they don’t have a leg to stand on because you need to be able to emotionally recover and live your life."

And another advised: "Honestly if I were you, I would just tell them that the yard sale stuff is up for grabs, but they have to take it on THAT day and never return it to you. That way they don't have to buy it off you, but as long as it's out of your house by the end of the day you don't care if it's sold or if it's taken by your children. However you decide to deal with this, you're not the a*****e. Your children are, because they aren't stepping up to help you."

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