'Entitled' mum rages after daughter cuts her £1,030 allowance to stop bad habit
Parents end up sacrificing a lot when raising their children over the years, not least time and money, and it's nice when a child one day wants to give back as much as they can. However, for one particular daughter a mission to financially support her mum and dad so they could retire ended up causing a huge family row. She claimed that part of her monthly earnings she was wiring them was ultimately being wasted by her brother - on drinking and partying.
She explained on Reddit that her parents live in a "less-developed country" that her and her siblings, who all live in either North America or Europe. The furious sister added: "When I got my new job I did my budget and saw that I could send home roughly $1,300 (£1,030) a month without it affecting my personal comfort. I would still be able to save for my future and my mom and dad could retire.
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"So when I was home I set up a joint account for us. That way I could see is they needed more and make sure that they were not getting scammed or anything." Around 18 months ago, though, she began notice £160 being transferred out of their account every month.
She went on: "I asked them about it and they said he was having difficulties with his budget so they were helping him out. My brother doesn't need help. He is a scholarship student. He actually receives a stipend from my home government to study abroad. What he wants is money to party."
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By then she had had enough and reduced the amount she sent by £160 each month because "obviously they do not need it if they can afford to give it away every month." This move did not go down well with her parents, with the mum hurling insults at her.
She wrote: "My mom called me when she noticed and was yelling at me for being a c****y daughter and sister. I asked her to tell me exactly how much money they contributed to my party fund when I was away for school. Just so you know the answer is $0.00.
"They also tried to talk me out of attending university in Canada. I'm not sure how common the idea of filial piety is in other cultures but it's a big deal in mine. She went off about it. I told her that they didn't need the money and I had better ways to spend $200 (£160) than to gift it to my brother so he could get drunk with his friends more."
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The mum accused her daughter of treating them like "children" by trying to dictate how the money could be spent, but she stood her ground saying she refused to subsidise her brother via their parents. She added: "From now on the amount they got from me would be $1,100 (£870). And that if they sent him money again I would know and reduce their money by that amount going forward.
"My brother called me to b***h me out about cutting off his money from our parents. I said that I hadn't. He was welcome to tell our parents to go back to backbreaking jobs at their age to pay for his partying in London. Then they would have my money to live off of and their wages to pay for his drinking."
The sister's boyfriend sides with her, along with many of her friends but "my family and people from my culture think I am being an a*****e." Still, she finished, for the last two months it appears that her parents have only been spending the money she sends on themselves.
Reddit users were pretty unanimous in their verdict that the poster was well within her rights to reduce the parents' allowance. At least 1,000 people replied and one summed up the general consensus by saying: "Can I point out just how entitled your parents are behaving? To think that only you would need to contribute towards their lifestyle is eyeroll worthy," before adding that her brother needed a "dose of reality".
Others praised the sister's actions and one went as far as making her an humorously unexpected offer: "1300 a month? Girl I’ll adopt you." While another suggested that she should instead invest her money more wisely for the future: "1300 is a lot! You should invest that money into your retirement rather than give all of it to your parents."
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