'I helped my stepdaughter through her first period - her mum hates me for it'
A woman is outright refusing to watch over her stepdaughter alone after being slammed for helping her through her first period. She explained how her 11-year-old stepdaughter started her period when she was the only adult around to deal with it. But rather than thank her for helping her daughter, the girl's mum condemned her for 'stealing' their special mother-daughter moment.
She said on Reddit: "She lives with her mother during the week and spends the weekends with us. However, her father occasionally has to work on Saturdays and I take care of her by myself. Last weekend she got her first period while she was out with me, so I helped her and explained how things worked and so on."
However, later on, she came to learn her biological mother was "livid" - and phoned up her ex-partner to give him "an earful" about it. She added: "[She was angry] I didn’t immediately call her, because she would pick her daughter up, because as the mother she was the one that had to be with her daughter during her first period and I took this away from her.
What bothered me the most was that my boyfriend didn’t defend me, which he says was because he didn’t want to start an argument and make an already difficult relationship with his ex even trickier." In response, the woman vowed to never take care of her stepdaughter alone, not wanting to be blamed for "whatever decisions she makes while she's with her".
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She said: "If he has to work on a Saturday, then he should get her only on Sunday or change the visitation arrangement." Wanting to know whether she's overreacting, she has taken to social media to ask users for their thoughts.
In response, one user said: "Stepdaughter was fortunate to have a caring adult around who could help her through a stressful experience - nice that you could be there for her. That said, if your boyfriend isn't going to bat for you against his ex's weird demands, you're in for a world of hurt for every other 'first' that stepdaughter experiences while she's alone with you.
"If the only way your boyfriend understands this is because he feels the pain of his inaction, so be it. You're not wrong to hold him accountable." Another user added: "Your boyfriend needs to make arrangements to actually spend time with his daughter during his visitation days instead of passing her on to you."
A third user said: "I feel sorry for your stepdaughter because none of this is her fault. But I also don't think it's healthy for you to be responsible for her while not being allowed to be responsible for her. If you can't make decisions on childcare while she's with you, then you're in an untenable position. You did the only thing you could think of."
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