'I had to have my beloved dog put to sleep - I'm 96 and now feel so lonely'

07 December 2023 , 17:59

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I'm bereft now my dog has passed on (Image: Getty Images/Johner RF)

Dear Coleen

I read an article you’d written in the paper recently on the subject of losing a dog, which prompted me to write to you about my own situation.

Very sadly, I’ve just had to have my beloved dachshund put to sleep. He was nearly 15, so was my companion for a very long time and I have felt broken hearted since losing him. Many of my friends and family have said to me that getting another dog is the only solution to the heartbreak and loneliness I feel, but I’m 96, so unfortunately that just doesn’t seem an option for me.

I have considered fostering a dog or even offering to dog-sit for short periods and would love your opinion on this. I have never lived without a dog by my side and I feel bereft. I know how much you love animals and that you’ve always had dogs in your life, so will understand the grief I feel.

Not everyone does understand how profound the loss of a pet is. I would appreciate any advice or words of comfort that you can provide.

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Coleen says

I do get it and have been through this loss myself with dogs and cats in the past and, recently, one of my pygmy goats, Dave, had to be put to sleep after falling ill.

It is very hard, but one way of coping is to keep reminding yourself that you gave your dog the best life possible and looked after him brilliantly because he made it to 15, which is a great age for a dog. Also, you can access helplines for pet bereavement like the one run by Blue Cross (call 0800 096 6606), which offers compassionate support.

In terms of having another dog in your life, reach out to rescue organisations, as there are many older dogs who never get looked at because most people want puppies. They often end up in rescue because their owner has passed away or their circumstances have changed.

And you can look for a dog that’s quite low maintenance to foster or adopt. You could also consider a cat, as they’re more independent and don’t rely on you for walks.

I imagine it’s been difficult for you to cope with your routine changing, too, which was ­probably geared around caring for your dog – feeding, walking, letting him out, settling him down for bed at night. So, make sure you still have things in your day to keep you engaged – seeing a friend, calling family and so on.

And don’t feel shy about asking for support from them or help to call local animal
shelters. I hope that at 96 I’m still looking for a dog! You’ve still got love to give, so don’t give up. Good luck.

Coleen Nolan