'Entitled brother is 'groomzilla' he expects me to film his wedding for free'
A man says he feels he is being treated like nothing more than a member of his elder brother's wedding staff as the big day approaches.
The 27-year-old himself married last year and invited his brother, Rob, to the stag do as well as making him one of the ushers. On top of this, he gave his sibling the honour of making a speech during the event and had him sit near the top table.
But with 30-year-old Rob's ceremony coming up, the man shared his story on Reddit about the lack of consideration he feels he's been given for it. He gave some initial background: "We fought a lot as kids, he wound me up and took the p***. He hated me being around his friends, ignored me at school, and ignored me in the pub when we were teenagers. Nowadays we're civil and can have a laugh but if we're together more than a day the insults and p***-take will start."
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Although Rob wasn't his brother's best man - his best friend was - he said he enjoyed speaking at the wedding. He added: "He loved giving a speech and took delight in telling embarrassing stories. I expected this and took it in good humour."
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Yet for Rob's wedding plans, he hasn't been invited to the stag do, despite his future brother and father-in-law going, nor been asked to be an usher. The upset brother said: "Rob's getting married soon. Best friend is Best Man. Six friends and his future BIL have been asked to be Ushers. They are going for suit fittings soon.I have not been asked to be an Usher nor to wear the proper suit.
"I have not been invited to his Stag Do, but his future brother-in-law and father-in-law were. On the seating plan my wife and I are on the table furthest from the Top Table with much older guests who we don't know. Hurt? Yes. Surprised? No, this is typical of how he's treated me all my life."
However, after he told his parents that it was clear that he wouldn't be involved in the wedding much, Rob contacted him and said: "Mum tells me you're whinging about the wedding. Don't worry, we'll find you a job."
The next time he saw Rob and his fiancée they asked if he would like to film the wedding for them. He went on: "They'd buy a decent camera and some editing software so I could make them a beautiful memento of their day. All this was said with a beaming smile like I was being given the best job in the world.
"I was clearly being asked as an afterthought and to give me a "role". It would be like I was staff, working all day. Videography isn't my thing. I don't accept the argument that all you have to do is point a camera the right way."
He admitted that he didn't have the necessary skills to film it properly and that he would find the editing difficult. The brother wrote: "I would struggle with editing it afterwards and that would be hours of work. It would look amateurish and I know that Rob would use that to take the p*** out of me for the rest of our lives like he already does with other stuff."
While he does not mind not being asked on the stag do or being an usher, he draws the line at being asked to film. He finished: "I could even accept being sat as far away from the rest of the family as possible with people I don't know. But I can't accept being demoted to unpaid staff doing a job that has only been offered to me as an afterthought. I then left. Rob has messaged me calling me an a**h***. Am I?"
The post, written on Wednesday, has already had 1,700 votes and more than 360 replies - and many devised a potential plan that the brother appears to have overlooked. One said: "Original poster is missing out on passive aggressive gold by not making the most deliciously terrible wedding video in history.
"Use the Shaky Camera Technique. Make sure to use unflattering angles and keep the subject off to one side of the frame. Keep the frame noticeably tilted at all times. Experiment with horror film techniques like peeking the camera out from around corners and back."
While someone else cheekily advised: "Film diligently all day and then hand brother and sister-in-law a video of nothing but boob, bum, and crotch shots of the wedding party and guests." Others went as far as saying he should not even attend the wedding at all: "Go do something enriching with your wife that day.
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"The money you would spend on a gift, clothes and gas - put that into a relationship worth having," and, "I'd book a nice vacation for myself and my wife the day of his wedding." Another simply stated: "Rob is clearly a huge a**h***."
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