23 February 2024 , 13:39
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A bridesmaid has asked social media users if she and her fellow bridesmaids were wrong to go against a bride's wishes and also lie to her. The 28-year-old recounted how she and the other girls decided that the terracotta colour dresses the bride had picked out made them look bad, something they believed she had done on purpose, even though the whole wedding theme was about autumn when the ceremony was to take place.
Posting on Reddit, the woman said that when they saw the colour, except for the bride's sister Lily, 32, who was also the maid of honour, they all said they didn't like it and pleaded with the bride, Tara, to change it. She refused because the colour she had chosen for them fitted in with the overall colour scheme for the wedding.
The bridesmaid revealed that she, and two other bridesmaids, Jane and Amy, told her at a planning lunch they hated the colour but Tara said she expected them to go along with the colour scheme of the wedding. They then spent months trying to change the bride's mind but to no avail.
Refusing to comply the trio took matters into their own hands. They sent Tara screenshots of the dresses they had chosen in the colour she had requested but then ordered the same dresses in the colour they wanted.
She said: "The three of us created a separate group chat and decided to order dresses that would actually make us look good. We agreed on baby blue and bought the dresses online. Tara didn't ask any more questions about the dresses and essentially just took our word that everything was okay.
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"The moment we put on our dresses, Tara lost her s**t. She started yelling at us and crying, and Lily had to escort her out of the room. Apparently, she must have gotten ready elsewhere, because we didn't see her up until we were called to go to the venue for the ceremony. The wedding was great, but Tara was upset.
"Since the wedding, none of us have heard from Tara. However, Lily and Tony, 30, (the groom) have been texting me, calling us horrible people and claiming we ruined the wedding. Tony even said that Tara almost cancelled the whole thing, and he had to force her to go through with it. Maybe Tara was upset that we didn't get the color that she asked for, but I don't think it was right for her to make us look unattractive."
Other users of the site were unanimous in saying that the three bridesmaids were an utter disgrace and that they should not have been allowed to attend the wedding at all. One user said: "You're the a*****e, you all are. 'The wedding was great' said the bridesmaid who pulled a swiftie on the bride on the day and turned up in a completely different dress. Just awful behaviour. I would have told all three of you to put your own clothes back on and get the hell out. Maybe you would have looked ugly in the original dress, but from your behaviour, I'd say you're ugly on the inside anyway."
Another said: "You're the a*****e. That's some slimy underhanded s**t. An ultimatum would have been better. Not showing up would have been better. You deliberately misled and lied to your supposed friend on a really, really important day. So you don't look great for one day? How shallow and insecure are you that you're willing to ruin someone else's wedding just so you can pose and posture? Eugh. Yeah, bridezillas exist, and her colour choice might have been questionable, but compared to what you did, she's a f*****g angel."
And a third said: "You're the a*****e. Damn. You are all TERRIBLE 'friends'. Your friend’s wedding wasn’t about you, or you all looking your most glam best. You were supposed to be there to support and stand by your friend, helping her out and celebrating her on her most stressful and best, happiest day of her life. Instead, you made it about you and deceived your friend with some seriously underhanded b******t. You should be ashamed of yourselves. You have the emotional intelligence and maturity of mean middle school girls. Congratulations on showing your true colours."