28 January 2024 , 14:46
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Snooping on your partner's phone is never a good idea because it's an invasion of their privacy, and if you find something you're not a fan of, you'll probably find it difficult to bring up to them as you're on the back foot.
One woman was left wondering what to do when she noticed that her partner had asked someone else for a "photograph" - and to make matters worse, she realised that it was his ex-girlfriend he was speaking to.
"I just don't know what to think", she penned, admitting she was concerned her partner was still "attracted to" his ex.
Taking to Mumsnet, she explained that previously, she'd expressed concern about her boyfriend texting his ex, and others on the forum said they'd be "worried", so she was on guard. Then, she realised they'd been chatting again, and "he asked her to send him a photograph."
"I just don't know what to think", she admitted. "In my last post about this, posters said he was kindly giving her the brush off but asking her to send him a photo - how would that be giving her the brush off? Could he still be attracted to her? Why would he want a photo of her if he wasn't?"
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In the 'Am I being unreasonable?' poll, 77% of people said the woman wasn't, and she may have something to be concerned about when it comes to her partner and his ex.
In the comments, one woman wrote: "Can YOU explain any rational and innocent reason someone might ask for a photo from their ex? I doubt you're stupid, so why are you doubting yourself?"
Another commented: "Only you can decide really if you want to be in a relationship with somebody who flirts with an ex", with someone else saying: "You're painting her as doing all the flirting. He responded to the flirting by asking for a picture of her. Aka flirting too. Heavily.
"He's not a passive bystander in this he's a very willing participant. It's such teenage behaviour I would be massively turned off especially if he's got form. I wouldn't trust someone like that at all."