16 November 2023 , 16:20
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A disgruntled cook has taken to social media to ask for advice after her mother-in-law insisted she would not eat the food she had cooked at Thanksgiving. The 32-year-old woman is hosting Thanksgiving at her house for the first time, and her husband has been super supportive. She had been preparing traditional and more unique dishes and was excited to cook for her family, yet her mother-in-law wasn’t having it.
The despairing user explained on that her husband had broken the news that she "wants to bring her own dinner to eat when she comes over. I asked him why she would need to bring her own food when I would have more than enough here.
"He just made excuses saying I know how his mother is a ‘grade A picky eater’ and she won't ‘like’ anything I have prepared. I thought that was ridiculous, I am not making anything unfamiliar to her and there will be plenty to choose from. He argued that her bringing her own dinner would be a good compromise and I disagree."
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The user took this personally. She went on: "It will be hugely obvious that she's making a comment on my cooking and it would be humiliating to have her there eating something completely different in front of everyone, it's like she's trying to make a point of showing that my cooking isn't good enough for her."
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The anonymous user lost it in the end and "told him if she can't eat anything here then she is welcome to stay home and eat whatever she wants." Despite the upset her mother-in-law’s rudeness had caused, her husband has been less than sympathetic. She continued: "My husband is now calling me insensitive and petty. He says I am ruining the holiday. I don't see it that way."
"I only want friends and family around who are appreciative and kind - I don't need the negativity of someone rejecting everything I've cooked and insulting my cooking when I've worked so hard," she explained.
Many commenters were eager to know what the Reddit user planned on serving. She explained that the menu would include "roasted turkey, stuffing, classic creamy mashed potatoes, potatoes au gratin, sweet potato casserole, green bean casserole, cranberry sauce, roasted carrots, homemade bread rolls with apple butter, roasted squash with goat cheese, honey glazed ham, braised short ribs, spinach, bacon, & feta cheese pies, special lasagna with white sauce, stuffed mushrooms, creamed corn with cheese, and then pecan pie, pumpkin pie, and apple pie for desserts."
Despite many users supporting her in her upset, many have suggested that she "kill her with kindness.’ One astute user replied "This is one of those situations where the MIL thinks she's embarrassing you but she's really embarrassing herself. Consider how good you will feel as you watch her get more and more uncomfortable eating her special meal. And consider that if you uninvited her with no explanation you will look like an a*****e, if she brings her own food she will look like an idiot."
Another suggested that if her mother-in-law is willing to single herself out in this way, she should let her. She will miss out on a delicious meal. "I think your menu sounds fantastic, but I don't think you even need to pay it any mind if she brings her own food. You have a fantastic spread and I feel like MIL is going to regret bringing her own and struggle to not abandon it when presented with the feast you're going to lay out. At the very least, she's making herself into an odd minority person when everyone else will be enjoying the meal you prepared," they explained.