29 September 2023 , 11:20
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Brides can have a very specific idea as to what they want their wedding to be like, from the floral arrangements to the exact aesthetic of their bridal party. The drive for a perfect aesthetic can turn brides into 'bridezilla', turning family dynamics sour and ruining friendships.
One bride has decided that the aesthetic for her bridesmaids is so important to her that she doesn't want anything - or anyone ruining it. Which is why she wants to ban her sister-in-law from being a bridesmaid, although she recognises this might upset her fiancé and his family. She wrote in to the BBC's Pressed Podcast to share her predicament.
With her wedding taking place in 2024, the bride-to-be is in "full prep mode" for her traditional wedding. "But I have a small situation", she explained. "My fiancé wants me to make his sister a bridesmaid, but in the most respectful way possible, she just doesn't fit my aesthetic."
Another blow came when the bride said: "Me and my girls are hot girls like you, and sis just isn't that." She explained her specific aesthetic for her wedding. "I want all my bridesmaids hair slicked back, no braids or locks. And if you have natural hair, you need to do a full lace to get the look I want."
As well as specific requirements for hair, she also expressed that for dresses she wanted her brides to wear a "tight fit dress at the top that flows out at the bottom." The bride-to-be claimed that her sister-in-law "hasn't got the shape for this, the hair for this, or the body for this." Considering this, she was wondering how she could not include her fiancé's sister without offending him or his family, explaining "this will be my one and only wedding."
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People in the comments on TikTok were utterly shocked by the bride-to-be's reasoning. "I’m not even against the sister in law not being a bridesmaid, but her reasoning is awful", one person expressed. "This is a classic example of I want a wedding not a marriage" another observed.
On the contrary, one person said they didn't think it was that deep. "So she not going to be a bridesmaid based on her looks", they said, not understanding what the issue was.
One person observed that while it might be the bride's one and only wedding, it might only be her fiancé's first if her attitude is anything to go by. Other people said the groom might need to "rethink his decision" to marry her, and another said he "needs to run".
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