03 February 2023 , 10:15
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We've all heard of the quirky rules that are required to attend a wedding - the main being that no guests should wear white otherwise they'll outshine the bride. However, a woman has revealed that she was faced with a jaw-dropping expectation from a wedding invitation alone.
The anonymous woman refused to attend her sister's wedding after she required a 500-word 'application' essay to attend despite the fact that she was family. Taking to popular forum Reddit, the woman explained that due to having reduced numbers, the bride-to-be was filtering applications to decide who made the best guests.
Captioning the post, the woman questioned: "Am I the a**hole for refusing to RSVP to my sister's wedding because I'm required to write an 'application essay' just to attend?"
Guests should explain why they want to 'celebrate' the day with the newlyweds (stock photo) (Getty Images/Tetra images RF)The woman shared her post in the midst of the Coronavirus pandemic, but the forum has recently resurfaced online.
She explained: "My sister is getting married next February, a destination wedding no less. I have doubts whether this wedding is actually going to happen with the pandemic and everything but she is totally set on moving forward.
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"Anyways because of the pandemic, her original venue has made her cut down on guests because they're cutting capacity by half. As a result, she's sending out 're-invites' that ask everyone to RSVP again.
"But in order to figure out who to invite and who to cut, she's asking all confirmed guests to submit two 250-word 'essays' to two questions. The gist is that they'll use these essays to choose who can come or not, based on people's enthusiasm. People who don't write the essays at all will be automatically disqualified."
The sister of the bride-to-be admitted that she feels 'really insulted' by the application process. She refuses to describe why 'celebrating the day' with the newlyweds would be meaningful to her.
The sister refused to produce an 'essay' unlike other guests (stock photo) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)She went on: "I just feel really insulted by all of this. The questions aren't even pandemic-related, it's broad topics like 'why do you still want to celebrate this day with us?' And 'what will attending our wedding mean to you specifically?' So she's blatantly looking for people to kiss a** and tell her why they REALLY want to go.
"I told her in advance I'm not writing 500 words on why I NEED to attend her wedding, spend my own money on plane tickets/hotels, and buy her a present. This has really rubbed her and my parents the wrong way.
"She's said that to keep things fair if I don't fill out the RSVP correctly I won't be saved a spot. I said fine with me. Then my parents said if I don't show up I'm going to be in big f****** trouble with all our relatives so just write the essays."
Seeking advice, she questioned: "Am I the a**hole if I stay stubborn on this? I'm already annoyed at the thought of spending thousands and coming home to quarantine. But I will not belt out 500 words on how this is totally my choice."
Since sharing, the woman's post has raked in over 3,800 comments to date.
Taking to the comment section, one person suggested: "Not the a**hole. I would definitely send in two essays. The first would say 'Mum/Dad said I have to come or I'm in BIG trouble' over and over again until you hit 250. The second, 'I'm your sibling'."
Meanwhile, someone else said: "It's ridiculous to ask anyone to do this. You invite people to your wedding because you want to share your important moments with them not the other way around. Frankly, anyone who spends time out of their day to write an essay begging for the privilege of a wedding invitation is a giant doormat."
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