24 January 2024 , 15:36
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A mum-to-be has asked her husband to subject himself to being watched while he gets a colonoscopy to make a point about her mother-in-law's demand to see her have a child. The woman said that she doesn't like her mother-in-law as she's "unpleasant and pushy" and has never accepted her as a daughter-in-law.
She told fellow Redditers that she finds her husband's mum very judgmental because of her tattoos and the fact that she has a career that she intends to continue after her child is born. She also informed other posters that none of the woman's other daughters allowed her to watch them giving birth, so she is the mother-in-law's last chance.
She said: "My sisters-in-law are all at least 12 years older than my husband and are all done having kids. I am the last chance for my mother-in-law to see the birth of a grandchild. I have zero interest in letting that judgemental old woman see me down there. She has objected to me from the beginning because I have tattoos and I am not in any way interested in being a stay-at-home wife. I have a lot of tattoos and a career I plan on continuing. And I have tattoos down there that are none of her business."
She explained that while her husband is his mother's "baby boy" he has always stood up for her against his mum, including with their wedding. The pushy mum also wanted the couple to move back to his hometown, where he could work but his wife would not be able to and he refused because he knew his wife's career was important to her.
She added: "She has started crying to him that all she wants is to see a grandchild being born. All her friends have experienced it and she wants it. He is starting to crumble under her emotional blackmail. So I made it clear that the only way I would agree was if, before the birth, my husband made arrangements for my father to witness him getting a colonoscopy.
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"He said I'm being ridiculous but I said none of my brothers would let my dad see them getting a camera shoved up their a** and he felt left out. He finally understood my point but his mother is upset that I used such a stupid comparison. She says that it isn't the same thing at all. I offered to change it to me watching her get a Brazilian wax and she hasn't called in a week. I know seeing a baby being born might be her dream but I am not interested. Am I in the wrong?"
Her fellow posters were completely on her side, with one simply saying: "Giving birth is not a spectator sport. No means no," while another said: "Also who the f*** wants to see their daughter-in-law giving birth. Why does she need to see a baby being born? We all know what happens, we don’t need to be in the room down the end of the bed watching. Unless she is helping to deliver the baby there is no reason for her to see it literally being born. Messed up"
And a third said: "Your comparison was perfect and and your feelings are reasonable. And frankly your husband doesn't really get a say. This is your medical procedure and you can simply tell your medical team she is not welcome."