'I walked out of my son's wedding - it was such a long and boring day'
Getting married has got to be one of the most important and special days of your life, and you hope that your family and friends will go above and beyond to celebrate it with you. Even if you might not like big crowds or loud parties, it doesn’t seem unreasonable to put up with it for one day, especially if you are related to the bride or groom.
However, one dad has found himself on the receiving end of an ear-bashing for leaving his son’s wedding early and can’t figure out what he did so wrong. Taking to Reddit to ask for advice on his behaviour, he wrote: “My son, Alan has just recently gotten married to Helen and I love them both very much. It’s relevant to mention that I really dislike parties and large gatherings, I’m not sociable at all and I really just dislike them. So it was kind of a downer when I heard that Alan and Helen were going to have a wedding with around 150 people.
“I told Alan ahead of time that I would probably leave early and that me and the rest of our family would take two cars so that they could stay if they wanted to. He looked like he didn’t mind at the time. So at the wedding itself, after the ceremony, I basically told him that I was glad and it looked great but I was going to go home.
“He asked if I was going to at least stay for cake or for food but the food didn’t look all that appetizing to me so I told him I was just going to leave. He said ‘alright whatever just go’ and I went back to my table to get my stuff. I told my wife and she said she didn’t feel comfortable driving back alone as the venue was very far from us and the roads there were not great. I said in that case she should come with me and after some hemming and hawing as there was supposed to be a mother/son dance she eventually agreed. So we left.”
Following the wedding, the man’s new daughter-in-law Helen messaged him to say how she was disappointed with him and his wife for leaving the wedding early and how much it had upset Alan. He revealed: “She said she was disgusted with us, saying horrible things about us and insulting us as people and as parents. Really just sickening. I told her off and asked why she thought it was okay to talk to her in-law like that and she said that us leaving ‘ruined’ the wedding for Alan and that he was very upset for the rest of the night.
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“She continued to berate us. I politely told her to leave us alone and called Alan, mainly to inform him that his wife had a temper that he should know about. When we talked about it he basically started berating me too and said things like ‘you always do this’ and ‘just leave me alone’ before hanging up. I feel like I’m justified since I told him ahead of time that I wasn’t going to stay. Am I the a**hole here?”
The controversial post quickly gained traction from people who were stunned by the man’s behaviour. One person wrote: “You are the a**hole. You didn’t even stay for the meal that they’d paid for. What an absolutely disgusting lack of love and respect from you as a parent. You also strong-armed your wife into leaving too so your son had no parents present at his reception. How you don’t see that you’re the a**hole is a mystery to me.”
Someone else added: “100% you’re the a**hole. It’s your son’s wedding and no matter how uncomfortable you feel, it’s your duty as a father to be there. It’s one evening. Suck it up, man.”
And a third person blasted: “You missed all of the traditional wedding reception things. You didn't make a speech, your wife didn't dance with your son. He didn't have his parents there to celebrate with him, even for an hour or two. You didn't express love just a ‘Hey you look great but I am going to leave’ and then you dragged your wife with you all because you couldn't be bothered to give him two hours of your time at his wedding. You’re horrible.”
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