'My husband argued with me while giving birth, he wants his mum to name our kid'
A woman has been left outraged after her "entitled" husband started arguing with her as she went into labour with their second child. She explained how her husband started shouting about how he didn't like the name they were going to give their daughter - but wouldn't give a reason as to why.
It was only until a year later when he admitted his 'sudden change of heart' stemmed from his mother's dislike toward the name - and wanting to please her, he forced a last-minute name change. The woman said: "With my first, my husband would argue tooth and nail to name the baby what he wanted - but if I agreed with him, he would suddenly hate the name and move on. In the end, he named that baby.
Her husband ended up picking out their firstborn's name (Getty Images/iStockphoto)"Seventeen months later, our second child was born and he was pulling the same thing.
"I told him that we need to agree this time and she will have a name I like too. At one point, I made a list of 20 to 30 names but he declared he hated them all."
She claims to have given her husband every chance to come to a decision with her on a name - and tried to make it a special moment for each of them.
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But after he failed to co-operate, she went ahead and picked out a name on her own.
"I told my husband to pick a name from my list within a week or I would and that would be her name. He did not pick anything - so I did. Then I called her by that name for the next four months until she was born.
"But, when I went in to labour, just as the contractions hit hard, my husband suddenly started a huge argument with me demanding that I name the baby this other name.
"He continued to argue with me about it throughout the entire labour and after she was born."
She tried to come to an agreement with him on their secondborn's name - but he wouldn't cooperate (stock photo) (Getty Images)Disgusted by his actions, the woman went ahead and wrote down the original name on their daughter's birth certificate, not wanting to give in to her demanding husband.
She added: "He seemed fine with it. I don't know why he upset me so much and caused so many problems like he did. If he had mentioned the other name even days before, I would have considered it - but in the middle of labour? I think not!"
In the coming year, the couple made an appointment with a therapist in an attempt to work through their problems - claiming they only argue about baby names and their relationship is "easy" otherwise.
"He admitted his mother was the one who had picked the name he brought up during labour and he never told me because he wanted to please his mother," she added. "He knew I would not go along with it if I knew that was his motive.
"Then, to top it off, he also admitted that the reason he does not like any names I like is because he wants to feel in control by picking the name all by himself and he does not feel he is picking the name by himself if I actually like the name!"
The couple walked away from their session with an agreement that she would be responsible for picking out their next baby's name - if they decided to have another one.
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After finding out she was expecting shortly after, she admitted to Mothering Forum that she purposely wants to give their next child a name she knows her husband will "hate" - just to spite him.
While most users could understand why she felt this way, they all strongly urged her to pick out a name she actually likes - not a "revenge name".
One user said: "I'd name the baby whatever I wanted and have the nurses (doctor, midwife, doula, whatever) kick him out if he started up again during labour."
Another user added: "It sounds like the name struggle is a surrogate argument for some deeper seated issue. But for now, I would pick the name you like. It's your turn."
A third user said: "I'd name this baby whatever you love. It doesn't sound like you can really meet your husband halfway on this, if history is any indication."
One more user added: "I'd see the counsellor again and maybe even consider leaving him at home during labour. if any man tried to ruin my labour by starting a stupid argument he'd be kicked out ASAP."
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