'My dad named me after his school crush - I feel like a burden to my mum'
When it comes to naming a baby, most parents stay well away from names that remind them of their ex-partners. But one man went completely against this 'unwritten rule' and secretly named his daughter after his high school crush.
Taking to Reddit, his daughter explained how her dad revealed the truth to her over a phone call 21 years after the fact - but she now doesn't know whether to come clean to her mum. The young woman said: "My father confessed to naming me after his old high school crush and I'm conflicted.
"When my mother was pregnant with me, my parents were throwing around names and my father insisted I was a [name excluded], my mother didn't argue and she liked it.
She can't believe her dad kept it a secret for 21 years (stock photo) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)"I only know one other person with my name, so I asked my father how he came up with it.
"He admitted my name came from his high school crush, but not for the reason of 'the girl who got away'.
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"Instead he told me this crush was a woman who, 'Wanted nothing to do with me or any guys in my school for that matter, she was always so focused on her school work. She had her priorities straight and knew she was going somewhere, and I respected the hell out of her for that.'"
She went on to explain how she usually has a "very close" relationship with her dad, saying she can speak to him about anything whether it's good or bad.
She added: "He is and always has been patient, caring, and understanding while also being a slightly overprotective and the more logical parent.
"While speaking with him in that moment I felt proud to be named after someone he held so much respect for, but now looking back I don't necessarily feel as happy/proud.
"I should also mention my mother has absolutely no clue about this, but it wouldn't matter now as they've been divorced since I was nine and frankly she hates his guts, her words not mine.
"I can't pinpoint my entire feelings about it at this time but it's almost a sense of guilt for my mother? Like the weight of that burden transferred from my father's shoulders to mine? Maybe it's just the fact it was my father's crush?"
Commenting on her post, one user said: "Gosh, I wonder why your mum hates him."
Another user added: "Don't feel alone. My father wanted to name me Lucy, the woman he cheated on my mother with. My mum wasn't too happy about the suggestion."
A third user said: "My uncle did this exact same thing to my cousin. Very weird."
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