28 March 2023 , 19:59
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A woman who dresses like a 50's housewife says it's her job to stay-at-home - but insists she's still a feminist.
Lisa Pontius, 35, from Charleston, South Carolina, US, loves being a stay-at-home mum for her three young children and is a proud full-time "home maker" of the house.
Lisa and her husband Matthew, 40, a business owner, have their traditional gender roles in the home but she will proudly voice her feminist views on the world.
The mum believes people should stop belittling domestic work in the house - as it's a real job.
But despite being criticised for looking like a "grandma" with her vintage look, and being told that she dresses "too old", Lisa ignores the comments and regularly posts outfit videos for her followers.
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Lisa loves being a stay at home mum for her three young children (itsme.lisap / CATERS NEWS)
Lisa is a "home maker" of the house (itsme.lisap / CATERS NEWS)Lisa explains: "I think the way I dress sets me apart from other mums my age which is sometimes good but can also be bad.
"There is always a way in which mums tend to dress, and I don't dress that way.
"I guess it makes it harder for people to approach me and make other mum friends. I have made a lot of friends through social media, I have found people who know me for me and I go through this route rather than off the street and on the playground.
"I like to consider myself a modern feminist home maker, I love what I do now.
"I also loved being entrepreneur before having my children so it took me a while to settle into this role. It's harder than what people think, it knocks your identity.
Lisa alongside her son Levi (itsme.lisap / CATERS NEWS)
Lisa ignores the comments and regularly posts outfit videos for her followers (itsme.lisap / CATERS NEWS)"I do believe women shouldn't be made to be at home, but it is a job which has certain requirements and not everyone can do that, however it's my favourite job I've ever had.
"I believe that traditional gender roles and diving it up helps for a successful household.
'There is the need for domestic labour such as raising kids and managing the household is work that is needed to be done and it is a full time job.
"The reason me and my husband work so well is because of how we treat each other.
"I chose to be a traditional female house wife and home maker and I believe I made the right choices for me - and I also understand this isn't for everyone and women can make that decision for themselves and that's what modern feminism is.
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"It is important to be able to go out and get a pay check and financial support your family, but so are all of the other things that need to be done in a home.
She's accused of dressing "too old" by trolls (itsme.lisap / CATERS NEWS)
She is heavily influenced by the 50's and 60's style (itsme.lisap / CATERS NEWS)'If a woman is also a financial contributor, the labour in the home should be 50/50. The job you're doing at home is just as important as going out and getting a pay check.
"Since becoming a parent, it has changed my perspective on everything.
Dressing in a vintage way - Lisa has had some comments online telling her she dresses too old and that she looks like a grandma but she likes being described as 'vintage'.
She adds: "I'm told I look like a grandma but women no matter what they wear are criticised for how they dress.
'I'm told I dress too old and I'm too young, criticised for how I do hair and makeup because it ages me, and I'm told I would look better with less makeup.
Lisa and her husband have their own traditional gender roles in the home (itsme.lisap / CATERS NEWS)"I just think wear whatever you want and be comfortable in. I tend to be more covered up compared to the current Gen Z trend's and so people will say I look old but I don't mind being described as vintage and elegant.
"Social media pressures women to dress and look a certain way - people always felt they are entitled to comment on women's bodies and styles and how to exist, it's the internet version of cat calling.
"I have have had a fair bit of hate, which can be overwhelming, so reading the messages is rough mentally but I also know that the hate comments will be forgotten about after a few days.
"I've always been an old soul inside, I've always loved antiques, old houses and vintage jewellery. My grandma would be my inspiration."